I can relate to this so much! I’ve got 4c hair, which is the kinkiest, driest, coiliest, most difficult hair to manage (in my experience). I’ve come to hate my hair because everyone else in my family has 4b/a hair. My y black deputy headmistress called me out in front of the entire school to tell me that I should get my hair plaited into something more manageable. I had tied my hair in a pineapple updo, which is completely allowed, my my hair was called unrefined and not lady-like, so I was forced to get a new hair style. The next day, a white girl with a high ponytail was complimented by the same headmistress, yet she had a similar hair style to mine. It really ticked me off because my perfectly normal hair was judged, however, when a non-POC gets the exact same hair style, it’s allowed. 
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