Right! This has been nagging me for a while. Before I start, I’m just going to say that not all threads do this, but I do see it. Okay…
SEXUALITY, ROMANCE AND ASEXUALS IN RP’s
So, Asexuality. There is a huge misconception that if a character is Ace it means they are not interested in forming relationships, not interested in romantic advances, and don’t show any thought to having a full-on relationship. As an Asexual myself, let me set the record straight.
Asexuality means a person is not interested in sex.
There is a wide range of limits and lines that different people make as to what they are and aren’t okay with beyond that, but the main fact is that an Ace is not comfortable/not responsive/doesn’t care for sexual advances. That is it.
An asexual can be interested in a relationship. They can hug and some even kiss, as I said, boundaries change depending on the person. Acts of romance, and building a strong relationship is still very much on the table. Asexuals can want to start a family, and in this day and age it’s not hard for them to do so without sex. They can find someone attractive, but it’s more aesthetic, similar to admiring a painting or sunset. They can understand and find sex jokes funny, but some don’t, so it’s good to work out boundaries and what could make an Ace uncomfortable.
They can be Aromantic asexual, though, which means they do not wish for romantic or sexual attraction, but this is different to being just asexual.
So, when you say that your character is Asexual, please don’t do so just to show that your character is not interested in a relationship. If we could come up with an alternative - maybe ‘Non-Rom’ or ‘NR’ - then we can better define the difference.
The reason I ask this is because it took me a full year to work out what I was, and it was difficult because of this very stigma. It’s very difficult when everyone can stay who or what they are, and you can’t because they don’t believe you for this reason or that. As I said, I had to do a lot of research, and ask a lot of people, before I could confidently say what I was - and to be honest I still can’t because that stigma still remains and a lot of people still refuse to believe me or take it seriously. So, help me change that and make it easier for anyone else who may be stuck in a similar predicament. That said, if anyone else wants to add, I think it would be great to share knowledge on this topic. Still, thank you all for giving me your time. I hope this helps gain a better understanding of things.