I tried really hard to make it work with a friend. They were there for me when I felt no one else was, and I felt seen in what I was going through.
So they became my clutch, I went to them for good news and bad, or when I just wanted someone to talk to or make me laugh, but with them someone who will just listen.
Problem is they just listened, it was great for a few days but it was like pulling teeth trying to find out what going on in their head. In the end they ghosted me for a month, - and we were only talking for a few days - I sent multiple angry venomous texts but they were just left with no response. I sent another the next day saying Im not angry and they can talk to me, they replied with ‘they feel as though I don’t respect them.’ And that was the only reply I got.
Even after pouring my heart out and straight up saying I’ll take their silence as saying they never cared. So I guess they never cared. It’s hard to get over something with so many unknowns, especially for me. I have to figure out everything and I don’t know where it went wrong. I was worried, I was angry, confused and offended. And we only talked for a few days. Like I wasted so much energy that I didn’t have, none was reciprocated.
hey, I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’ve been through (and still going through) something like this and I know this really sucks. We don’t deserve to be ghosted like that. First of all, thank you for sharing your story, I kinda feel happy that there’s someone I can relate to and that I’m not alone in this too.
It’s like they never care but digesting that is really hard, well atleast for me. And yes, I totally relate, it’s so hard to get over it. This has been happening to me for months now and it doesn’t get easier at all. I don;t rwally know how to handle the situation but I think we need to stop caring. At times like this I wish my feelings had a switch but ughh that’s not the case. Sure, it’s hard but they don’t deserve us, nor our affection and love. they don’t deserve ot at all. this is purely one sided and that’s so hard to digest but i guess it takes time.
Thank you for your reply, it was exactly what I needed. Someone to say they felt this type of ‘sucks’ too. Right now Im really glad I shared this cause I found you to relate too.
But yeah we need to stop caring. It’s not hard to accept that for me, it’s hard that I thought the relationship was completely different. Meaningful, for us both.
Dm me, at daydreamwrites.epy if you want, and we’ll tell each other if it ever gets less sucky. Or to ask how you doing. I’d like to.
You know what’s crazy, I just went through something similar. I can relate to the ghosting and not caring parts. I would say we were friends though. But then, out of the blue, barely any interaction. None for several months at a time unless I established the conversation. And they were short, I mean she would leave me on read in the middle of the convo…
I guess you could say I’m still mad about it lol.
I think what we always forget is that not everyone is meant to stay in your life forever. They may just be in your life for when you need them most and that’s all. It sucks, don’t get me wrong, but you gotta look at the bright side… that person helped you get to where you are now. You have to take care of yourself at the end of the day. So, take some time to let go of them and move on to better and longer lasting friendships with those who want to be in your life. It will take time and many experiences like yours, but keep your head up!
I’m sorry you had to go through that. I’ve lost many friends and people who just didn’t want to stay in my life. But it’s not the end of the world. It will get better
