Being Different (appearance, clothing, race,etc.) SELF LOVE

I’ve learned to love who i am but it hasn’t exactly been easy. I used to be bullied and teased about being a sensitive person back when i was in elementary school. I literally would cry when I’m sad, angry, or frustrated and I’d constantly get teased about it and it made me feel bad about myself to the point i started hiding my emotions from people. But luckily, i had and still have a best friend who told me, me being sensitive isn’t bad and that its a part of who i am. And it was because of his words and him accepting all of me and not judging me that i finally started loving myself.

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See, there is a right time and a moment when some special comes into your life to help you get back on yr feet from feeling those depressed times. People will always say something negative about you, all the time, don’t loose hope, stay true to yourself, love yourself, be yourself. There are so many reasons why people are still doing these wicked things, but just know that you are never alone.

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He seems like an amazing best friend! And if you think about it, I bet you’re just really empathetic with yourself, and that is a really good thing! You know how you’re feeling, and I believe that can help you a lot!

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Yes! I have always been really sensitive and would cry a lot even in front of people but I have always accepted that bc that’s just how I am and it’s a natural response some people just hide it better than others.
I love being emotional but now that I am older I just do it in private.
But as for other peoples emotions I don’t mind it at all and I love helping people and talking to them about sensitive things.

WE JUST EMOTIONAL HUMANS AND THAT IS OKAY! :green_heart: :brown_heart:
it doesn’t make you weak.
I even cry when I am mad (Even then people don’t mess with me !)

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Oh, he is an amazing best friend! I’ve known him since i was like 4 or 5 and he has stuck with me for 10 whole years without ever turning his back on me. He’s always there for me when I’m upset, need someone to vent to, or want to share my accomplishments. He really is amazing.

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That sounds really amazing! I’m happy for you ^^

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I’m glad someone is able to relate! Not everyone understands what its like to be extra sensitive.

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this is beautiful and amazing. I really hate to push people away who are trying to be there for me and talk to me but im just an anti-social person sometimes.

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Honestly, I don’t know if I like who I am. There are aspects I like and dislike. Overall I think I like myself tho.
I do care, not as much as I used to though. Throwback to middle school where I would not leave the house without an oversized hoodie cause I wanted to blend in lol. I try not to care though, like if I’m having a bad day, or it’s finals week, or some other circumstantial thing, I don’t care what others think because I don’t have the time nor energy for it.
I’m not super conscious about it, but I am EXTREMELY pale (perks of being an introvert lol). Sometimes my friends will joke about it but I’m fine with that.
My biggest insecurity, at least physically, comes from my ethnic background. I am ethnically jewish, so my hair is literally chaotic asf.
Still learning to love it :pleading_face:

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I know what its like to be anti-social myself. But my situation with him is different because he is someone I’ve known practically my entire life. And that’s why I’m more comfortable around him than any of my other friends.

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Aye negatives and positives… regardless it’s what makes us …US.
We just gotta learn to accept it or love it! :dizzy:

I do get teased by mainly males but that’s just how we joke around with each other
WE LOVE EACHOTHER REGARDLESS
and I know that they accept me!
If there ever is a time where someone takes it tooo far… I will know.
And they will be cut off from my life cuz no time for NEGATIVITY

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I have literally 3/4 pictures of myself because I never liked how I look so I tried to avoid them as much as possible. But you know what? I’ll still put on some hoop earrings and still eclipse everyone because my fashion sense is just :chef:

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ALL of you are so sweet! it makes me happy.
I LOVE YALL
keep growing and being true to yourself!
I support your journey! :smiling_face_with_three_hearts: :brown_heart: :green_heart: :dizzy:

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my mom says i weigh too much for a teenager 13 y/o. my weight fluctuates between 106 and 108. I’ve been exercising but it doesn’t bring down my weight by anything. She says i need to lose all my stomach fat (which isn’t a whole lot, but is enough to say i’m fat). She says my thighs and butt are too big, and all of this is why i have to exercise.
Am i actually fat? People will say I’m not, but people say and think different things.

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Plus I have so much acne and I think it makes me look ugly. I have black hair which obviously makes my leg and arm hair visible :roll_eyes: so I’m really self conscious about that too. I feel like everyone’s going to make fun of my leg hair so when i wear shorts in school, i try to cover what I can

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I think you are perfect just the way you are!
Embrace yourself and all that comes with!
Acne,hair, and all that are natural things for us and you don’t have to be ashamed!!!
The right people will love you for YOU always. :brown_heart: :green_heart: :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

And one more thing
I feel like i’m saying a lot, so i’m sorry about that.
I feel like since I’m indian, I have to be perfect with everything. Good grades, good enough athletics, teachers always love you, obedient, involved with music and/or dance, never rebels against parents, perfect scores, extremely smart, good at everything you do.
While i’m some of those things, i’m not all of them. I get good grades, but I have gotten Ds. I’m not athletic. Teachers do like me. Obedient in school, but not so much at home. I do music and dance. I definitely do not have perfect scores. I do rebel against my parents. A lot. I don’t get perfect scores and i’m not a super super smart person who can skip a grade. I’m not good at everything I do. I make mistakes. But all of this invisible pressure forces me to reprimand myself whenever i make a mistake.

Why are there so many things wrong with me?
Sorry for the rant

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Nothing is wrong with you at all. You are expected to do so much but you should focus on what will make you happy❤

Not me I dress like I’m from the 90’s Last Christmas all I wanted was a walkman and real gold chains. And I got them when I showed everyone at school my stuff they all thought it was cool. I have lived in multiple states in my country (America) And everyone is super nice. The only people who are racist/bullies are adults who need to get over themselves (I’m 13) The only times I am sad and different are when I suffer from certain disorders. At the age of 7, I got PTSD from being in a car crash with my mom and brother. So I can’t cross the road or go in the street unless I have someone with me or else I can’t breathe. And when I was 10 I was diagnosed with depression because my older cousin died a few months prior to that due to heart complications during football practice. And as long as I can remember I have had Obsessive-compulsive disorder which is weird to be diagnosed at a young age. So I do this weird thing where I have to tap on my hand with a pen five times in all of my classes. I also use to think that I forget to lock the door when I’m home from school that I get up multiple times a day to check. Thankfully my friends get that I need to do my rituals for my OCD. So the only reason why I would ever feel different is because of my personal issues.

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That makes sense! People usually get more and more comfortable with a person over time, or sometimes right away if they click!

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