the fact that i’m making this topic is so pathetic, i—
um… anyways, i seriously don’t know what’s up with me. i can usually bounce back after a crush pretty quick.
but with this one particular guy, it’s been… years. he was my best friend the 2nd year i liked him, then we kind of grew apart. but we were extremely close & talked every night for hours.
please don’t tell me to confess my feelings cause we both know we’ve liked each other before & i’m never telling anyone i’ll like them again. don’t try to change my mind, please.
but… if anybody had any advice to stop thinking about him? that’d be much appreciated. i’m just scared because i’ve never been so fucking excited to see someone or hear from someone or anything. i’ve liked guys… but he’s… ugh. i hate this.
What the heck? Me too! I did a little “oopsie”, though.
He got a new best friend and kept bragging about her.
He was like “aye look at her she’s cute & smart!!!“
He wouldn’t shut up about her so I was like “If you think she’s so great, date her.” So he got all upset & stuff. He sometimes texts me. My friend posted a pic of me on her Snap Story & then he starts asking for us to FaceTime. Bye.
I had the same problem I started to fancy my first crush in year 8 I started dating other guys but, I could never tell him how I felt. We were best friends joined at the hip and all our friends knew I liked him. Got to year 12 and I thought screw it and finally told him. He actually felt the same way but, we only lasted 2 months. From where we were best friends I couldn’t make the transition over to a relationship it just wasn’t right and he was so nervous around me romantically it drove me insane. We broke up, he had a best friend that was similar so thought that would work. He was also clingy and it drove me mad so I broke up with him and everyone went off to uni. And he got with an old best friend of mine they went to the same uni and I had to hang out with them for 4 years. I couldn’t get away from them. Just watched them hurt each other, had to convince him to stay with her and not leave her for me because they lived together and deal with him trying to cheat with me when he got drunk. It was so painful and not fair on any of my boyfriends. Eventually they broke up and I got with him. There was so much hype and expectation and he did not live up to it, I was disappointed. I thought it was a fluke but, no it just wasn’t right.
Eventually I distanced myself and walked away from that group of friends I haven’t spoken to any of them for a year now and I can honestly say its the best thing I have ever done. Without him around I have been able to move on and find a successful relationship.
I guess what I am trying to say is you will never forget about him he doesn’t sound like a crush he sounds like your first love. But, you need to distance yourself so you can move on and be happy. Trust me on this as much as you tell yourself you can be friends you can’t. Walking away from him and all our mutual friends after 10 years of friendship was so lonely but, the best choice I ever made and I have never been happier.
oMg girl, you should try to hang out with other boys??? Maybe try to completely forget about him… even though you might be distant… to keep him away from you or just forget your feelings… distant him even more… I know this isn’t the best idea… but idk… I don’t have any crushes lmao
only issue is i have tried to stop talking to him lol we havent talked in 6 months . so that one doesnt help (not really his fault or mine). ++ majority of the people i talk to are different boys so oof
If you have periods together, talk to other boys. Focus on your friends. If he looks at you, don’t look back. If I were you, I would just continue talking to him and eventually “date” without the label if you know what I mean. He might even have a new crush by now. Don’t lose your contact with him if you like him. Start with smiling and simple greetings to get closer again.
You can’t there will always be a part of you that thinks about him, because I guarantee there is something attractive about him that you can’t stop thinking about it. Give it time
Bye.
we havent talked in 6 months . so that one doesnt help (not really his fault or mine). ++ majority of the people i talk to are different boys so oof