hey yaāll! my name is phoebe and lately iāve been dealing with a lot of internalized homophobia/biphobia. (for example having thoughts like i canāt be attracted to both guys and girls or that i canāt be attracted to girls, because iām a girl).
iām still in the closet so itās not like i can go to my parents or siblings, plus iād rather talk to someone whoās going through the same thing (or has gone through the same thing).
-also theses thoughts make me feel gross
dm on insta if youāre bi and can help @michaeljackson_episode
(or private message me here)
While Iām not bisexual as a lesbian I can definitely get a hunch of what you are going through the fact that I had to blur the part shows how Iām uncomfortable with my own sexuality even to this day. Just know bisexuality is valid there is nothing gross about attraction (be it romantic or sexual). However that mindset might not be the easiest to apply when itās subjected within you. My best advice would be to look around and admire the q*eer people around you ~ Sometimes the best way to fix deep-rooted issues is to start from the outside; once you realize you arenāt repulsed by them youāll hopefully be more accepting of yourself (even if they do gross you out youāll notice itās not because of their sexualities)
Hope my comment wasnāt invasive ~ I wasnāt meaning to take up a space thatās meant for bisexuals but just to give my insight and hopefully an advice that may help you out! Feel free to contact me through pm or instagram dms whenever! All the best <3 you are valid and so is your sexuality
Iām a genderfluid pansexual and here is my story. There was a girl and the second I saw her I started to get conflicted with myself. I was thinking what is happening. Three years later I came to the conclusion I was gay. Then I started liking guys again so I was confused again. At this point I thought I was bisexual. Again I was wrong because I realized I donāt care about gender or looks I care about love. Love is love what can you do? Five years after I met this girl I told her how I felt and she feels the same. I realized I was genderfluid because when I was younger I always wanted to be a boy but I also loved being a girl. I had been confused about this till six months ago. Everyone is very supportive and I hope this story helps you to be more comfortable and think about it in a different perspective.
Hey! Iām also bi, luckily I havenāt experienced any biphobia, but people ask me: am I more attracted to men or women? And for me itās kind of like, sometimes I crave men, sometimes I crave women.
Iām mostly emotionally attracted to women and physically attracted to men.
I was confused over a year ago, some time after that I met a girl then we started dating which is how I got 100% sure. One month later I came out to my parents and brother. And my mum told all my aunts and I was so mad, lol.
youāre not gross
It wouldnāt surprise me if I will experience it some time. Donāt let if affect you cause youāre perfect just the way you are.
Biromanticism (like bisexual but with romance, as I am asexual) is something I struggle with in terms of being content with myself. I flop back and forth between āmaybe Iām just gayā or āmaybe Iām just straightā and then get hit with yearning for a s/o of any gender and it throws me off.
Internalized biphobia is a tricky thing and super frustrating for anyone who has to deal with it. Just know that your sexuality is valid, and things can be a bit difficult with this sort of subject. Thereās no need to feel ashamed of who you are, and life is a journey of acceptance.
i can relate to this because lately iāve been having thought like maybe youāre just lesbian and are too afraid to admit it and itās really stressful for me because iām only 13 and itās hard for me to know for sure if that makes sense. like i feel like iām trapped because iām too young to date anybody and make a decision. i hope that made sense and thank you for your message!!
Hey Iām bi as well I just made this account you sound amazing but I donāt know who to tell my sister or parents hopefully youāre ok and Iād love to be friends
Iām a bisexual adult so if maybe you want an older persons perspective, feel free to private message me here with any questions.
Also, please try to remember that you donāt have to ābeā one thing, and sexuality can be very fluid for bisexuals. And you arenāt signing a contract when you say āI think Iām bi/gay/lesbianā at a young age. You have no idea really what you will or wonāt like as you grow into who you are. If you are attracted to girls and guys, that doesnāt necessarily make you bi either. You can appreciate the natural beauty of a person regardless of gender and not be sexually attracted to the girl you think is pretty or the guy you think is handsome*.
Again, Iām 30yrs old, came out as a teen and dealt with a lot of stupidity over the yearsā¦ so if you need to talk, Iām here. That goes for anyone.
