Here’s a basic guide (This is a basic guide because these are MY experiences so others may experience differently) for the example topic u gave (Death of a close person):
For the death of a close person, you may get the feelings of =
- Loneliness
- Your now missing a piece of yourself/your life
- Sadness
- Anger that ‘fate’ took their life (You may even feel anger towards them for making you live without them)
- And more…
You may experience =
- Returning memories of them (happy & sad times)
- Self Blame (If you blame yourself for their death even when your not to blame)
- The ‘What ifs’ (Where you question things that could of happened differently to change the overall outcome)
- The feeling of missing them
Some may even decide to think of them in hard situations. Meaning, that whenever they’re in a hard situation…they would think about what that person may have done if they were in that position.
Obviously with the above, you may experience all the points and more. Others may experience just a few of those points. Some may experience something completely different. The above points are versions of what I experienced mixed with what people around me felt when our close one died.
I have experienced 2 breakups (your other example) and I may return to give a base guide on my experience with those as well but for now, I hope this helps (: