I’d argue that’s not the case at all. It might be in the United States, perhaps, but my own people (the Sami) were assimilated, brutalized, enslaved and forced into Christianity by our Scandinavian overlords. And today, we’re subjected to hate speech as well as ridicule. We are a minority, a Finno-Urgic people, but our skin is also white.
Either way, I wouldn’t consider my experiences similar to any US POC, because I’ve not the faintest clue how things work there.
Part 1 of either 2 or 3 
Here’s a basic guide (This is a basic guide because these are MY experiences so others may experience differently) for the example topic u gave (Break Ups):
This topic varies massively since it can depend on a lot of things. The commonly known categories of break up (in my opinion) are =
The overall category for the above is known better to me as either an end to an unhealthy relationship or an end to a healthy relationship that someone just struggles to come to terms with. Another category that is there but people tend to ignore (especially in Episode stories) are known as =
These are when a relationship ends after both person agrees to end it. They can agree to end it for many reasons. Some couples agree to end it when one person (or both) needs to help themself grow as their own person without being heavily influenced by their partners ways of living. This can be when someone relies on the other person so much that they become dependent on the other or they rely on the other too much/excessively.
A few of couples (when they think they’ve ‘fallen’ for each other) become clingy and/or start to doubt themselves. They doubt the other person’s faithfulness (they may constantly find ways to ‘prove’ the other is cheating even when they’re not) they may doubt their own worth. Meaning that they constantly change their behaviour / appearance / personality / likes&dislikes or even friend groups just to feel more 'worthy’of the other person. As you may have guessed, the listed in this paragraph shows an UNHEALTHY relationship.
Couples involved in any of the above paragraph could end in a ‘bad breakup’ meaning that the clingy or doubtful person doesn’t recognise the unhealthiness of that relationship and seems it ‘normal’. The people who don’t recognise it, are often the ones who have either never been in a relationship before / have had bad examples of relationships (i.e = parents divorced etc…) or are just too uneducated on the red flags of an unhealthy relationship or it can end in a mutual break up where both agree to end it to help each other grow even if they decide that they’ll get together in another year or so.
Mutual break ups are not where one person decides to end it and just expects the other person to let them go or something similar.
I can’t speak for POC but I am trans ftm and nonbinary and I think that it’s totally okay if a writer writes about other experiences! As long as they portray the character well, and aren’t rude or hurtful.
Part 2 (last part) =
Since the last part was pretty much an explanation of unhealthy relationships and mutual ones, I’ll separate the definitions to a paragraph or so each to make it simpler for anyone reading these (These will be MY definitions. Yours may be different)…
Mutual Relationships = These are when a relationship ends after BOTH people agrees to end it.
A Few (Not All) Possible Examples For These Break Ups To Happen =
Physically Bad Break Ups = These are when a relationship ends after ONE person decides it’s over. These are often when there is a power imbalance in the relationship. Meaning that one person was probably abusive (Hence the ‘physical’ in the name).
A Few (Not All) Possible Examples For These Break Ups To Happen =
Emotionally Bad Break Ups/Mentally Bad Break Ups = These are when a relationship ends after ONE or BOTH people end it. These are often EITHER when someone is manipulative/controlling to the other…OR when someone is just struggling to come to terms with breaking up (even if it was mutual).
A Few (Not All) Possible Examples For These Break Ups To Happen =
I will not detail/explain my break ups much since they’re both private and I’m keeping them that way. What I will do is remind everyone not to talk in any detail/romantically to strangers online! I have a valid reason to emphasize that but just don’t ask since I probably won’t give much details. All I’ll say on that fact is that u must remain safe and talking to strangers like that online won’t keep u safe, it endangers you.
If for whatever reason you are talking to people in detail/romantically online…then do the necessary checks just to be a little more safer! I’m making a thread soon about this sort of topic which I’ll link in this comment when I do but just do the necessary checks to keep yourself and people around you safe (:
Overall feelings/thoughts from break ups (A mix of mine and others) =
Thank you for the heads up about this! The rest of the info is also be super helpful to everyone as well!
I’m making the thread now so I’ll link it soon (:
Thanks! I’d love to check it out 
I have another (longer) reply on a similar thread, so I thought I’d keep this one short on here. 
I know this is quite a grey area given the vast amount of differing opinions, so I don’t believe there’s any right or wrong answer. My short answer is yes though, writers can, do and will write experiences that they’ve never personally gone through themselves but there will always be apart of them that doesn’t truly understand and in some cases, never will.
Personally, I’m kinda tired of POC facing racism in stories. 🤷 An ignorant side remark by a character about someone’s race or culture is the alright. But if the main conflict or the main arc of a character is about the racism they face, I personally don’t wanna read about it unless the writer is a POC themselves.
Whenever a POC gets a role in a story, their character always has something to do with their racial struggle-- even if the main story has nothing to do with racial injustice. Like, we can’t just live a life without being confronted about our race. Not in real life, not in fiction. I’d say if it has nothing to do with the story, dont include it at all.
It’s different tho if POC want to write about their own racial struggles, and use the MC in their story as an outlet of that frustration. Which is why I say it’s okay for them to do that. If someone doesn’t experience racism and isn’t writing about it as an outlet of their frustration with dealing with racism, I just have to ask why? You can write a character who’s a POC, not make their story the center of racism, and still have an amazing story. We already have too many trauma p*rn stories, like some else said on another thread.
I hope this helps? I know you’re POC too, but I’m mostly speaking in general. And I obviously don’t speak for everyone.
It’s finally posted! The Dangers Of The Online World Often Ignored (: - Community / General Chat - Episode Forums (episodeinteractive.com) Hopefully, it’ll help people understand the worst case scenarios of things they’ve never actually experienced themselves. Meaning that it’ll protect a lot more people who haven’t been educated on the topic (:
Awesome! This is really important, so thank you so much for making it!
Your welcome (:
I try to not write in the perspective of a serious viewpoint I do not know about. And when I say that I think I mean to say the main theme of the piece. I will not write a story about racism from the perspective of the POC person, because I have not experienced racism despite being technically a POC (it’s a bit complicated, I am a POC but am definitely white passing and would say I have white privilege). However, I might in the future make a story about racism using my notions of it. I wouldn’t feel comfortable writing about it from a POC perspective- I’d rather leave that to a POC instead of making my own story about it.
That being said, I do tend to write dark fantasy and overall kinda strangely in general portraying things that I definitely have not experienced. Sometimes serious stuff such as death that I honestly haven’t really done my research on. But I find that those pieces usually center around myself or what I want to portray. Such as anxiety, isolation, etc… Despite my stories often being so wildly out of the box sometimes, I find that they still are about me. And a lot of them are up for interpretation. I wouldn’t be able to do the same thing with racism as I have done with anxiety.
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