Guys, I have a girlfriend and i’m bisexual and my parents don’t know. I was told from a very young age to be accepting of everyone no matter race, sexuality, etc, but idk how my parents would react to me actually being bisexual…i mean, my mom was a theatre kid and has a theatre degree, which most guy theatre kids are gay for the most part, and she is friends with LOTS OF THEM, and my mom is very democratic…So i think she’d probably be accepting, but Is there any sneaky way I could find out more about her views on it without being STRAIGHT (no pun intended) forward? Also my aunt and mom are super close and we can literally walk to their house but my young cousin that’s around 9 and autistic, said she thought gay marriage was weird and my aunt got mad at her and told her that it isn’t…Idk if that would be helpful but…
If there is like a Gay or bisexual person on tv ask her if she likes him? That might work, or just say at as a joke like say it like this “Mum giggles I’m bisexual bursts out laughing”
That might work.
She likes the tv show Queer Eye, or she asked me to watch it with her once I believe.
Lmao I have no idea what show that is
Idk either but I know it’s gay people… Also my aunt and mom are super close and we can literally walk to their house but my young cousin that’s around 9 and autistic, said she thought gay marriage was weird and my aunt got mad at her and told her that it isn’t…Idk if that would be helpful but…
Like, if I’m being honest not telling your parents is probably not going to help. Your just going to keep stressing if they find out on there own, it would be better for you to tell them. And if they don’t like how you are then Fuck them, and we will be here for you!
Aww okay, thank you!
One of my friends didn’t come out actually, she just brought it up during conversation with her mum, idk the details exactly but she brought it up so casually lmao, went something like:
Her mum: “(enter male actor here) is so hot don’t you think?”
Her: “I really don’t even like guys to be honest”
Her mum “Ah I see”
Her: “yup lmao”
Her mum: “Aw I’m proud of you :))”
Ik your bi so you can’t really recreate this but you get the idea lol
sound like you have an understanding family. since you already have a girlfriend doing what I did might take to long. I made a lot of clues to it.
but maybe start mention you might be into both genders. and dont spring on them you have a girlfriend
or just jump directly into the cold water and bring your girlfriend home. you sound like you have a supportive family.
Aw thanks… I’ll try and see if something like that can happen too.
Good luck with however u do it we’re here for youuu x
tysm girl! <3
Oh my gosh thank youuuu!
It’s very important to let them know about it! And whatever you do, I think that their reaction will still be the same .But if you really wanna know her point of view about this, you can ask her normally and if she asks you why you can say that it came from nowhere and you’ve loved to know what she thinks about that.
Just keep in mind that you should always do and live the life you want
Both of my parents are very conservative, and unfortunately I never had the chance to have this conversation, due to someone blowing it before I could say anything. Guess what, they honestly did not care. Any parents that would stop loving their children based on their sexuality, should be ashamed of themselves. That is how I look at it.
Politics aside, family should always have each other’s backs.
I think you just tell them.
Well if your allowed to have a girlfriend just bring it up subtlety like if your going to hang out with her just say, “Mom can I go hang out with my girlfriend?” or, “Mom do you want to meet my girlfriend?” That’s what I did and my mom just agreed with a smile and I didn’t know if my mom was accepting of that.
(I’m a not-really-closeted-but-kinda-closeted pan so idk if I’m much help but)
I first brought up the topic of LGBT to my mom through a interesting weird way.
My uncle (dad’s brother) is gay and married (he lives across the country though) and if I remember correctly, I was showing her this rainbow bracelet I made, asked about how my uncle came out, was all like “y’know I thought of that just because pride flags and rainbow and my bracelet and ya” which (somehow) lead to a long-ass conversation about how terrible homophobic parents who throw their kids out are and how she’d always be accepting of me no matter what. This ended with many happy tears from me and hugs. Really a sweet moment that felt like it was straight from a movie.
I didn’t end up actually telling her anything that night, but a few months later I told her I had a crush on a girl and she just took it kinda as “ok cool”
The worst part ended up being that she was skeptical of me having sleepovers with my friends, but that was quickly resolved. Honestly just go for it!!! It sounds like your mom would be really accepting. If you’re worried you can maybe watch a gay movie (Love, Simon is always a great choice) and ask her about it or bring it up subtly like I did (maybe less subtly then “hey look at my rainbow bracelet? you know what’s also rainbow? gaY-”)
Best of luck to you
Honestly you never know until you tell your parents doesn’t matter what question you ask you won’t get the same response compared to how your mum will react with the truth and if she isn’t ok with then better off without them but hiding it will be hiding a big part of yourself from your mother.
Your Mum sounds open minded mine isn’t I’m demisexual didnt have boyfriends or girlfriends wasn’t interested my mum pushed me to go out nightclubbing as she wanted me to be normal and hook up with a man she was terrified that I was a lesbian.
Honestly wish I had a choice but as we know our identities aren’t a choice we were born this way.
I had same problem… AND I WAS 12.
Nobody to s´this day know that