Complicated Crush, HELP (share your crush problems too)

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Hey, what’s up guys? So I already posted this on another thread but I decided to create this topic because I want to get many advices and opinions as I can. And also, you can share your crush (and love) problems too, I and others can drop an advice too, we’re a community after all :kissing_smiling_eyes::hugs:

I just confessed to my crush recently because I wanted to get the weight out of my chest. He didn’t directly reject me though, just said that he was sorry because of the sadness he had caused in me (this will get me confused later on) . TBH, I haven’t seen/talked to him for more than 2 years (he was my classmate) but then he said (this is the part where I got confused) that he was also sorry because he sent SIGNALS, and I was like he didn’t say he likes me back but HE ADMITTED THAT HE SENT SIGNALS?? :thinking::sob: and get this, he said he didn’t know that I have a crush on him but that was seriously impossible because my very actions and words says it all we would always glance at each other years ago when we still see each other. I feel like he’s lying :sob: He then said that he’s actually scared of commitment so here I am overthinking maybe that’s the reason why he lied :sob: and one of his best friends asked through one of my best friends if I already am in relationship or if I still have a crush on his best friend. The thing is during the time we were still classmates NO ONE knows that I have a crush on him, not even my best friends. I couldn’t chat his best friend to ask how he knew about it :pensive:

**so what do you guys think? I could use an advice. Should I just let go and move on? Or should I hold on to what I feel for him? **

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@mariam_episode Here’s my situation though, what do you think should I do? :cry:

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Bahrain It doesn’t forbid dating it’s just my school wants to protect their reputation

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I asked a friend to ask him and this is what happened

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he thinks I’m his cousin :cry:

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That is so strange, why would they forbid their students to have romantic relationships? :((

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Ikr I tried protesting but I ended up getting suspended :cry:

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Basically in my country if you tell someone they have a bf/gf it’s offensive. I don’t understand why. That’s why once I turn eighteen I’m getting the hell out of there

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Well, he sure does need to be informed that both of you are not cousins. Can you describe his personality? I kinda don’t like the way he replied to your friend

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Oh no, good thing you didn’t get suspended. :cry: So when are you actually allowed to have a boyfriend?

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He thinks we’re cousins bec four years ago my mom and his mom were best friends everyone thought they’re sisters so basically there was a rumor around school that we’re cousins but he should know by now we aren’t.
And to describe his personality he has an impeccable sense of humor and really kind; he once defended me when I was getting bullied

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Honestly, never. In my country boyfriends aren’t accepted. When you fall in love with someone you have to get married. It’s the man’s mother who should call the woman’s mother then they arrange the wedding. If it’s the other way round it’s considered rude. I freaking hate the gender stereotypes.
Also once I came out to my mom as an aromatic she told me I’m dumb and if I’m anything other than a heterosexual she’d disown me. It made me sad :pensive:

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Well if that’s what you say he is then I’m sure he’ll be understanding when you confess to him :))

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I hate homophobics :cry:

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Speaking abt your situation, I think it’s best if you let go. Try keeping your distance from him and try to make him jealous. He’ll come around some time. Trust me I tried it and it worked. If he doesn’t then he’s probably not worth it.

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So when two people are in love, they have to marry each other immediately? But what if things don’t work out?? I guess you have no choice but to follow the rules for now unless you move to another country :(((

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You’re absolutely right. And I’m planning to move to the US where ppl are open-minded. I literally just told my grandma that people from other countries basically are making fun of us, and she said ‘THEYRE KAFFIRS’ kaffir: disbeliever I can’t keep up with this :disappointed:

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Yeah, I haven’t seen him for a long time actually (talk about loyalty). I kept my distance by not talking to him anymore but I miss him so I decided to confess.
As for making him jealous, I guess I’ll think about that :joy:
Thank you💓

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That is so saddening, I hope that tradition of your culture will soon be gone. People have the right to love and even if it doesn’t work out with someone, they will surely learn a lot about themselves more and have growth😔

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You’re absolutely right. I guess I felt kind of ashamed of my sexuality after what my mom said but I know she’s wrong. She caused me a lot of depression at thirteen I legit cry every day bec I don’t get to experience what girls my age all around the world get to. You’re so lucky :broken_heart:

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I’m not even allowed to have friends that are boys