Complicated situation, need advice. (health related)

Long subject, please read.

So yesterday I met this boy who lives nearby and he’s friends with me and my brothers friend which is my neighbor. Yesterday went well, we talked and hung out but today was different. At first he was fine, he was laughing and we were all having fun. Then out of nowhere his whole personality changed and he was walking around, not talking, and acting strangely. Little did I know he has diabetes and depression… along with other health issues. I’m not very good when it comes to showing emotion, or dealing with others feelings so I didn’t know what to say but I felt bad. I tried to reach out and help but he wouldn’t respond or he would say he was fine. I knew he was upset so I asked again, he had supposedly hurt his leg… and other various reasons for why he was acting the way he was. I don’t know if I’ll see him tomorrow but if I do I don’t know what to say. My friend showed me messages of him talking about me in a good way and wanted my number. Which is fine, he’s cute and sweet but I don’t know what to do because I can’t “read” him like I can most people. There is a lot more to it but its all very complicated and I don’t know if I can handle or be the person he needs to make him happier. He said he’s having family issues, especially with his mom and wanted to stay out of her way for awhile so me and my friend tried to cheer him up to get his mind off of it. I don’t want to seem careless or insensitive to the situation because I know how hard it can be to balance your emotions and live a happy life under hard conditions and circumstances but I don’t have the experience or knowledge needed for this. What do I do?! its like he cares, but he doesn’t. Sometimes he acts jealous of my friend (a boy) I grew up with but says he doesn’t. I’m so confused! This isn’t about me, or dating, because I’m not sure if I’m ready or even interested. I just want to know how I can help or what I can do to make his life a bit better.

I know this is long, but its not even half of it! My friend has brothers and their emotions towards me seems off but they have girlfriends so I’m staying away. Like I said before, I’m not a very emotional person and I’m not sure what I want. Especially when you’ve known these people for a long long time. This all happened out of nowhere and has been happening the last two days. Anyone have any advice or know anything about his health I could understand better? I can’t talk to him about it because he becomes shy and embarrassed. I wished he didn’t feel that way but I understand. :frowning:

Thanks for reading this, and hope someone can give me guidance. Have a good night! :heartpulse:


My name Leshell nice meet you I love your story

Aw thanks! This took a lot of time and effort to put together and I’m hoping others can not only help me but learn from this as well. I’m glad you liked it :blush:


What the heck this is so cute y’all are gonna get married and then screenshot and then send this to your kids when they ask you how you met :sob:. I guess I would just do something big for him or let him tell
You. Keep the convo light and don’t bring it up and then wait until you get the okay to talk to him about that stuff.


Try to set him at one area where there is nobody else in that area. Try convincing him to open up about his problem. You can look up a therapist, and get him/her advice about this situation as well maybe and that help you fix his problems. He probably likes you, so that maybe one thing why he is depressed but I’m not sure. Try telling his parents while he is not here, unless if you tried that maybe.


Jesus christ. I thought my relationship was complicated (no “tea” or whatnot, he is a different religion, his parents hate me, and we haven’t seen or talked to each other since… The week after Christmas break. Actually, a month ago, he told me to “watch out, my parents are after you”). I know what you’re dealing with, my closest friend is BiPolar, and almost blind. She gets teased. A ton.

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Planning my whole future :sob::heart:
I appreciate you taking the time to help. I’ll try the next time I see him or I’m able to give him my contact info.


Thank you

I’d like to get him alone to talk but it would be a struggle… my brother is nine and our friend is always around him since he’s the only reason he knows me. I’ve only known him for two days, I don’t know personal things about him, like his parents. i don’t think his dad is around but i’m not sure, all he said was his mom was on the crazy side and yells at him often :slightly_frowning_face:

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I’m sorry to hear that… that must be an awful thing to see more than less go through. I hope she’s okay, and gets through this hard time in her life!

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hi my name is Isatou, sometimes the only way to help someone is to be there for them every step of the way, sometimes just your presence is enough for them to know that you care, one day he will open up to u and let u in, patience is everything. I hope this helps: i’ve also been depressed for so long and had no one on my side, his guy is lucky to have u by his side. good luck

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Wait, so you aren’t that close, well try telling your friends that you need to speak to him alone in school maybe?

Aw thank you it does & I’m sorry to hear that. :slightly_frowning_face: I’ve never been diagnosed with it but sometimes it really feels like i have. Hope you feel better!

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thank you

I’m homeschooled… there’s no way around this :sweat_smile: I’m sure I’ll see him soon and I’ll go from there. Thanks!

Np, I tried my best lol.

No it’s okay. You really did help and if our friendship grows or maybe even turns to something else I’ll definitely use your advice in the future! thank you.

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Just don’t cut him off because he might feel like he pushed you away which could make him feel worse. It kinda sounds like he likes you, but don’t feel pressured to like him back like that

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Well, I would advise for you to be friends with him if that’s what you want to do- but maybe not get into anything yet, you can probably give him the support he needs without getting into a relationship.

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Hey, Do you what type of Diabetes he has? I have type 2 diabetes you can DM me if you want