Discussion: Being a Teenager

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Being a teenager is difficult.

I am 15 going on 16 years old and… people have this weird attitude towards us teenagers.

They are all like, “Teenagers are supposed to act like mature adults yet should be treated like effin’ children.”

They tell us to, “Grow up!” Yet when I do grown up things like going out for a grocery shopping, they’re all like, “OMG! Do you have any idea how you’re supposed to do money management? Do you even know how to do shopping? Here let me help you…”

I have no idea whether something is wrong or different with my so called teenage psychology, but still, this is my message to all those people out there –

"We teenagers aren’t weird or moody or ridiculous excuses of human specimens, but we’re just misunderstood! We all are normal humans like you! So, just let us do our thing and treat us equally…

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people like that should vanish.-.

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same girl, me too.

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do u have any instagram account i can follow? :smiley:

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I agree, being a teenager was eventful, and not in a good way :confounded:

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i did thanks!

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teenage years and early 20s is actually the most stressful point in life for many. studies show this age group has the highest amount of stress. we’re going through so much change and school stress and anxieties about the future, not to mention if you have other things hanging over your head like bullying or a tough home life. plus college can be difficult if your friend circle changes, its much harder to keep in contact with high school friends, and you might have little to no support during one of the most stressful times in your life. being a teen-young adult is hard and we dont give people in this age group enough credit for surviving.

*edited once bc i used the word difficult like 20 times

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I think being fifteen/sixteen is the hardest age. You’re not a kid anymore, but you’re not quite an adult. You also have to start thinking of things like a levels and university, which can be scary if you don’t know what you want to do.

My sister casually reminded me that I’m 20 next year, wow being a teen went by quickly. Enjoy it ya’ll, it doesn’t last forever.

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Out of the perspective of a mid-twenty German girl: I‘m glad that the time as a teenager is over. It’s really hard since you don’t know what you want, what your goals are and everyone knows it better than you (annoying). BUT: I can tell you - it won’t get any better so soon! I’m changing my mind nearly daily of what I want, what I like and what I want to be or what I would like to do. Finished an apprenticeship, having a long lasting (6.5 years) relationship I don’t really know where I want to be or go.
I guess, every stage of life is difficult in its own way. The only thing that all have in common is - you learn while you do it.

I can tell you to never give up! To never let anyone control your life - since it’s called YOUR life for a reason! Keep strong and going! :upside_down_face:

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I know I’m not a teenager but I can relate. I’m 25 and feel that I’m going through a second puberty lol.

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You seem like an awesome person.

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Aww thank you! I’m not sure about that though

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Periods. Just-

go away, periods. please.

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I guess I’m no longer a teenager anymore but ages 16+ and up was definitely not easy. Adults are constantly telling you that “you are just a child” but at the same time they’re constantly telling you to stop acting like a child and start behaving like an adult. A lot of teenagers have gone through so much challenging things but once you open your mouth to speak, you’re automatically silenced and told “that’s nothing” or “you think that’s bad? Just wait until you’ve completed school and actually have to experience life”. You open your mouth to voice an opinion and you’re told you’re too entitled. I mean being a teenager you will have less stress (sometimes) than adults and you’re still young and should be having fun experiences, but that doesn’t take away from the fact it’s not easy being a teen.
Lol why am speaking as if I didn’t just recently escape being a teenager

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Why do we both seem like the same person? I’m experiencing the exact same thing that you are experiencing.

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Yessssssss! Being a teenager sucked!

As a 30 year old, I honestly think life is sooooo much better now! Mid-twenties are tough too (but slightly better than teen years IMO), so hang in there!

This is your 20s in a nutshell, but I think the older you get, the more you realize that no one know what they want to do and the less you care about not having it all together. You might not get everything in life but if you have at least one thing to care about (a close friend, a romantic partner, a job that you love or that at least gives you enough $ to do stuff you love, a dream, family or anything else), it makes it pretty great even if it’s not 100% perfect.

And your advice is spot on :slight_smile:

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Totally agreeing with you! :upside_down_face:

Like I said, I guess every stage has its problems. But…that’s life though :woman_shrugging:t2::blush:

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So I haven’t been a teen for a long time (I’m 30), but I definitely understand what you’re going through! A lot of adults forget and idealize what it was to be a teen because in most cases you don’t have to work to earn every dollar you spend which means no rent or car payments among other things that stress adults out, school isn’t as hard as University (sometimes), and it was a long time ago. and our memories aren’t that good

But I recently found my diary from when I was 15 and holy shirtballs, I would not go back to then if you paid me! (maybe for like $50,000 and I could still meet & marry my husband because then I’d invest that money and be rich now?)

I was an introvert, huge nerd, no friends, no boyfriend or even know any boys hahahaha if you told me I was going to marry like the hottest/nicest guy I would have told you you were on drugs and I had hella low self-esteem. So what I want to say is, it does get better!

For me, university was a huge turning point because I met other nerds who were not ashamed of it and that helped! But then my early 20s were another crazy mess, but omg, don’t feel like you’re wasting your teens because it’s just a time to survive and grow and then make fun of when you’re older!

But I know it feels like every little thing matters, especially now with social media being crazy where you can see with your eyeballs that everyone is having fun without you (but they don’t post bad stuff…), but try not to take it so personally. Write out your angst, get good at a hobby, and try not to waste energy on people who don’t matter!

PS the best media on teenage years is not the glamorized version of it but shows like Freaks and Geeks, My So-Called Life, Big Mouth, Sex Education, and PEN15,

Sorry for the book, this was just crazy timing with me finding my diary literally yesterday… it was so painful to read, man. Old person out

It me

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Wow, thank you.

anyways I hate seeing everyone in relationships but I’m there like, “hello?”

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The world is different than it was. I’m 23 and even I see things are different now compared to when I was in school.

I wouldnt say it’s better or worse as the generations go on but things get more…complicated for teenagers each generation.

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