Maybe you should stop making out like everyone is attacking Shanni, she can handle herself. No one is stopping her from having her say. I haven’t told her not to say her opinion either. So don’t suggest that I am stopping her from anything.
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Nothing wrong with that. shrugs That is probably how she perceived it.
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But she still hasn’t acknowledged if she sees a difference and people are speaking for her so I can’t actually ask properly.
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I mean, if you can defend the girl, I can defend Shanni. Or at least “address the misunderstanding.”
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Then let’s wait ^^
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I’m just giving another option. Not forcing, not obligating, but stating another option. Not choosing the afro girl is excluding, regardless of it being a preference. Are you obligated to include her? No.
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Like I keep saying “but there is a difference between choice and attraction” and the issue is being avoided completely.
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Find that hypocritical how you spoke for the girl coountless of times but when I do it to Shanni, it’s a problem.
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But are you saying that there is no difference between innate attraction and choice?
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Yeah okay…
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Firstly, that is really rude to refer to someone as “the girl” if you can use Shanni’s name at least afford the same courtesy to others.
Secondly there’s nothing to defend Shanni from, nobody has told her she is wrong or can’t say her opinion
I never said @1Foreign_Soul was wrong or that she couldn’t say her opinion either. I said I disagreed. By that logic, there’s nothing to defend her from either.
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Right. So let’s WAIT for her to reply to you! What if she’s having a hard time keeping up? T.T LOL
Whats wrong with saying the girl? 
I guess I’ll say her name then, Foreign?? That’s what it was right? Ahem–and there is nothing to defend Foreign from either. Shanni just disagreed and you just started accusing Shanni of dismissing her.
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Yes, you disagreed, which is fine however you disagreed by your own interpretation of her words. She wasn’t saying or suggesting that you should date anyone you are not attracted to, and as was previously stated, it may not have been totally on the nail topic wise but did still relate to it. This is where I think all the wires got crossed.
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It’s been my argument all along, but people keep speaking for her.
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I get what the difference is. Preferring a certain race isn’t innate, it’s learned.
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If you can’t see what is wrong with addressing someone as “the girl” when they have a name there to use, then I’m not wasting my time in pointing that out, just saying if you use people’s names when addressing some, do it for everyone. 
Learned? Hmm…why do you think that? Curiosity ^^ seriously, I’m a hoe for discussions
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I never implied she said that, either. I said I disagreed. Please show me proof of me ever making any implications of her saying I should date people I’m not attracted to. Although her saying that you’re limiting yourself is a judgement upon people who do not date outside of their race for whatever reason.
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