This is a really good topic and it needs to be talked about.
I think that with the really ‘popular’ authors (I’m going to mention Bronte since she is the most recent one) I’ve had SO many great conversations with these kind of authors. They are sweet and they are understanding. I was telling her how much I liked her new story - and we had a full blown conversation about things which weren’t even to do with episode (there was something about GCSEs?) and I felt really happy because she dropped a few tips in there for me. That made me feel so great.
Some of them just blank me, and I get it - they have other things to do - heck I’m finding it hard to keep up with school work - I honestly wonder how the Popular authors are able to write as well!
So Yes, I do agree with your points, some authors are absolutely fine with having a conversation with you, and won’t hesitate to do so! but we as ‘small’ authors and readers need to understand that they are human and have a life out of this!