Hey! I’m a girl, 22 years old. (for clarification, sometimes my username confuses people). I was best friend’s (She’s 20) with this one girl for four years. We used to be very close. It got to the point where two years in, we were saying I love you to each other. She initiated it, and she was also the one to ask for my phone number first. At the time, she had a girlfriend and still currently has that same girlfriend.
However, my main concern though, is that she was saying “I love you” to me while she’s dating someone else. She’s stopped saying it recently, but it was going on for a while. That would make me super uncomfortable if I was in her girlfriend’s shoes. I don’t know why, but we went from being very close friends to not talking. I feel like it’s none of my business to ask what’s going on, so I’ll just see what the future holds.
Note: I saw more in her actions because she would ask questions like “I’m in a relationship, but I think I have feelings for someone else, what would you do? “ And she always confided in me about problems she was having with her girlfriend, calling me “beautiful and the most genuine person she’s ever met.” Her comments were quite flirty and went beyond saying I love you.
Thanks so much for anyone that reads this or has advice.
Have you ever been ghosted or had someone stop talking to you/become distant?