Hiya guys!
So I was thinking …like always ! How do people become introverts?
As some of you know I am a hard introvert. I become an introvert at the age of four.* WHY?Thats the question I ask myself everyday.
**I think people become inrtoverts because something happend in theyre life that hurt them badly. AND THAT HAPPEND TO ME AT THE AGE OF FOUR I am so confused that how could I do THIS (Introvert thing) at the age of four.
So tell me: “How do people become introverts?”What do you think?
Its mostly more of a thing one individual prefers personally.
For example someone who doesn’t like too much social interaction just because they feel that way. Nothing necessarily bad had to happen for that.
Or an extrovert who loves talking to people, going outside… bad things could’ve still happened to them too.
I personally feel like most people don’t just become introverted or extroverted, they just always have been.
Everyone I know always tells me now that when I was young, I was such an extrovert and I always talked, but now I’m antisocial. The thing is, for me, at least, I can’t actually pinpoint the time I became an introvert. Most probably the reason why I became one is because I used to talk a lot, but I don’t have a filter and tend to say whatever comes into my head, and most of the time my intentions are misunderstood, or someone thinks I’m rude, so I stopped seeing the point in talking. At any rate, I feel much more myself as an introvert .
Having said that, I feel like it all depends on the person and the mental state. An extrovert who’s gone through stuff might stay an extrovert, while another extrovert might feel it’s better to become an introvert.
I think it depends on the person. It can be just because of your personality, or maybe something has happened in the past that made you introverted.
For me, it’s the second one. I used to be a talkative child who always made friends wherever I go. But, I eventually got bullied, and that made me introverted and made me have social anxiety.
It’s better now. I still can have moments of anxiety whenever it comes to talk to people or when I am at a crowded place and I still prefer to be alone, but I’ve had some sort of therapy which made me more confident
I also think that it depends on the person. As an introvert I find it hard to trust new friends, and people have hard time approaching me because of that too. It actually took me 3 years to open up to my friends and they sure were surprised to find out how active and talkative I can be. So it also depends on the people around you.
I was like that since childhood, there is no particular reason why. I was just calm and unproblematic first child. Maybe having responsibilities as an oldest child made me more conscious and serious, hence I am type INFJ.
Some are naturally introverts
Some because they’ve faced a lot of problems
It could actually be breakups or family issues or even bullying…
An then they tend to be better of alone.
My introvert-ness comes from separation anxiety and social anxiety. both have prevented me from speaking up, making friends, and simply making any basic connections. for a while my parents thought it was autism (they tested me twice bc they thought the first test was incorrect ); but it turns out i’m just a ball of stress with some seriously bad OCD
So, i think it started from birth for me. I was just hard wired to keep to myself. social situations push me way past my mental capacity and usually end with a panic attack or something of that sort. I keep to myself and prefer it that way; less emotional distress and more energy preserved for my other mental illnesses
I became an introvert because I didn’t believe I was being heard, because I have 4 cousins and 2 brothers, and I felt my voice was overshadowed by theirs, so I just felt I was never and never would be in the spotlight. Sometimes I force myself to be heard but then sometimes I feel it still won’t work, it’s too big of a family and I never felt interesting enough to get the recognition for once either.
I’m an introvert with two brothers and I feel the same It’s like I’m the only one who laughs at my jokes, or like I’m talking to myself. I’m sure they don’t mean to ignore me but it stills hurts
Right! Telling jokes used to be so hard cuz absolutely no one would hear me, or they wouldn’t find it funny (probably cuz they were much older than me lol). And they’d also mainly focus on my little brother who is the youngest out of my siblings and my cousins. So just a very difficult time being the middle child.
Ahh lol yeah the age gap is hard - unfortunately I’m the youngest and my brothers gang up on me a lot and since there are only three of us and they are twins, they have always been much closer. But because they are older, I guess I get good insults
Well in my family my dad is an introvert, my brother is and so is my sister. I am as well. My mom is an extrovert however. Basically all three of us are like our dad. My dad’s family were also mostly introverts (his father was one also however mother is an extrovert). I was one from the moment I became aware of my existence in the world. Basically I was born an introvert, I think. I believe genetics plays a huge role in determining behavior in addition to environment. Where I work part time there are so many extroverts and they always comment that I’m quiet or I sit alone and don’t talk to anyone. I just prefer not to. I like the quiet and like to spend my time deep in thought. I think I might come off as cold hearted to some people? Growing up I was also very shy which sucked. Volunteering at the hospital really helped with my people skills, I loved getting to know them and even though I don’t talk a lot, I can talk for hours with people that I really love becoming an extrovert would be impossible for me! So I don’t try to. Instead I will remain this way but battle shyness. The only downside is I get told to talk more. Some people assume because my mom talks so much that I do too
P.S shy and introvert are not the same thing. There are non-shy introverts.
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); but it turns out i’m just a ball of stress with some seriously bad OCD 
It’s like I’m the only one who laughs at my jokes, or like I’m talking to myself. I’m sure they don’t mean to ignore me but it stills hurts 
becoming an extrovert would be impossible for me! So I don’t try to. Instead I will remain this way but battle shyness. The only downside is I get told to talk more. Some people assume because my mom talks so much that I do too 