I think I understand what you’re going through, because I was in a similar place not too long ago.
The answer I found is, never give love expecting to receive love in return. Relationships form when both parties give love unconditionally to one another, be it romantic relationships, friendships, even family bonds. If love were to lack from either party, there is no relationship to begin with. It would just be one-sided.
And that’s what I think most people struggle with. We grow up thinking one-sided love (whatever its form) is wrong and toxic. The truth is that it becomes toxic when you give love expecting the other person to love you back in the same manner. But that just ends up becoming an addiction. If you give love to the people in your life because they make you feel good, would you say you’d still love them if they stop giving you attention? When you love someone unconditionally, truly, it means that whatever happens your happiness will never be threatened. It means that you’ll love them as they change. Love is free! We need to stop thinking of it as a ‘love for love transaction’. Otherwise, it would just mean that you’re using them to make you feel good. Sometimes you’ll both change together, other times you’ll do so differently, and that’s okay. We’re humans, it’s within our nature to change. What matters is that we realize it.
The fact that you say you can’t stop loving them means that you probably don’t fall under the example I just made. There is nothing wrong when you’re giving love to other people even if they don’t do the same with you. I think it’s the most beautiful thing a human being can do. Love is hard, no one said it isn’t. Very, very hard, most of the time we underestimate just how much it is. It requires strength and perseverance. But that is life. Truthfully, thinking that a good life is lived without hardships is delusional.
And what’s worse is when you stop giving love, you automatically stop loving yourself.
If you feel like the people in your life right now don’t love you, it’s okay to acknowledge that and let them be. But that doesn’t mean that you should stop loving them. Life is long and you’ll see that sooner or later you’ll find people that will give you love unconditionally too. In the meantime, remember that your sole source of love is yourself. You, who keeps loving the world. Therefore, yourself. You’re so so special and you have the power to do this. It just takes a strong will to live happily. Thankfully, what they say is true: where there is a will there is a way.
Cheer up, you can do this