I wrote a story and I'm worried... please help

Heeyy trans guy here, I transitioned in 2016 and I find it great that you understand gender dysphoria is a part of trans people’s lively hood. What I would recommend is, be careful with your wordings and establishments!
The types of dysphoria what the trans person suffers from is also important; social dysphoria, physical dysphoria, and mental dysphoria. So it might affect the plot or how the trans person would view or think about things; so yes it will provide different struggles too.

Just because you’re a cis woman doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to write transgender folks in story, all it matters is that you have the right establishment ready and not harmful outlooks on transgender people including trans women; such as the objectivation or sexualization of transgender people throughout movies or novels that their only sheer of existence is to be this “diva s3x symbol” or s3x workers. (not saying we transgender folks can’t be s3x workers, I’m saying we’re always seen as one and that’s the only representation we get which is upsetting because we have a life of our own.)
These novels barely made us seem sane or possibly understood because our life existence is literally backed by science and we truly don’t deserve to be seen as not human.

Always remind the reader of the struggles of being transgender so they would understand that it’s truly a struggle and that you’re not writing a transgender MC for performative activism! A lot of people just throw out the term being transgender and that’s it, not throw in examples or feelings to the struggles.
A great example is as a trans guy you have to choose if you want to bind for more than 8 hours because of both your physical and social dysphoria; A transgender woman struggling to see herself passable because of her social and mental dysphoria.

Do NOT, and I repeat do NOT mention the MC’S deadname in a rude or outlandish manner. The amount of second-hand dysphoria I get whenever a transgender person gets misgendered or deadnamed purposefully is outlandish. Not saying it can’t be a part of a plot where MC is blackmailed or threatened for their own identity, I’m saying if you want a good representation for us trans folks, be equal when it comes to making us human and showing our oppression. Not everyone is gonna be a transphobe who deadnames the MC constantly; Some people make dead naming someone or misgendering someone a plot moving device which is straight-up wrong (It’s similar to LI saving MC from s3xual assault and making it a plot moving device)… It’s the bare minimum to respect trans folks and their identity, it doesn’t make anyone a hero for simply respecting someone’s existence to breathe or f*cking communicate lol.

Do NOT make MCs whole personality about being transgender ONLY, to make us human give us a literal personality instead of waddling around and making our identity our personality. Yes, our identity is a part of our lives just like you being a cis woman is and that it comes with its struggles, but making the whole concept only circling MC being transgender is the same level of making your favorite color your personality trait, like no I need know how the hell do you socialize with people and how your ratios and your boundaries because they’re scripted from your personality.
Take, for example, MC can be a woman which means she has her own personal and social struggles that come with her identity being a woman such as sexism and battling gender norms that define her cough her femininity, but does she make it her whole personality where all we see and talk about is her struggles of being a woman? No, what we either see in novels, stories, films or movies is how the MC intakes verbal social situations because it defines her personality as the MC.

That’s all I can think about writing a good transgender folk, and another reminder just because you’re cis doesn’t mean you can’t write a good transgender person in stories. Take the risk at this point because your intentions are pretty clear at this point, you want to put or shade light into normalizing transgender folks by making them MCs, and that you clearly want to be careful with what you personally write for these trans folks so you wouldn’t offend or misrepresent us as a community.

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