Omg that is honestly such a wholesome story 
You are very lucky thay you found your soulmate, not a lot of people today can say the same. In your case love really does conquer all, doesn’t it, and the fact that you never stopped loving her I just can’t 
. So cute and wholesome. 
Thank you so much for sharing this, you really gave me back some hope, thanks for all advice, I will try to give it some time and see how everything goes from there. Wish you and your family all the best 
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Most guys are scared to say if they feel something or not. My guy bff didn’t want to tell me he likes me or has feelings for me cause he thought he doesn’t have a chance as a boyfriend. I „pushed“ him a bit by starting to say oh do u have a crush? Who do u like? I’ve noticed ur new weird behavior, who is she?
At the same time I stopped talking about other boys (mainly cause I started liking him)
BASICALLY:
Most guys are scared, ur guy is afraid to lose u again and since u never talked about Ur past experience of being each other it is even more complicated for him to tell u that (if he ofc likes u more than a friend)
If u are friends like u told us, discuss the previous failure, u both will get over that and he may even open up.
If I were you I would make a secure „base foundation“ by telling him that u don’t think Ur past relationship was THAT bad, u were kids u both turned it into drama or smth like this. So he KNOWS oh so maybe it’s not that Bad and he still has big chances?
OVERALL
Don’t listen to people on the internet. Harvest opinions and make ur own by basing it off them
Wish u both sincerely luck 
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Thank you so much for such encouraging advice
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If you ever need to talk to someone, please pm me beacuse my pm are always open
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Thank you
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Your welcome
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That’s wonderful, I’m so happy y’all worked out!!
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This sounds like a really tough situation to be in, I’m sorry!
I’m not sure if you still need advice, but I can kind of relate to your situation. My best friend in high school and I spent a lot of time together, and I was totally clueless that she wanted to be more than friends. I didn’t view her as more than a friend though, so we never ended up dating…
It’s been a couple years since we graduated (we both go to different colleges now) and I don’t think I have feelings for her yet? But she’s found someone else that makes her happy, and I’m glad about that! But I haven’t met anyone else yet so I’m still not exactly sure if I made the right choice lol. And I still enjoy hanging out just as friends once in awhile — maybe that’s the whole “absence makes the heart grow fonder” think idk. Love is VERY complicated, that’s for sure 
If you haven’t yet, maybe try asking him what he exactly meant by insert flirty message here. Hopefully you can both communicate your feelings about the situation! If he doesn’t seem to want a romantic relationship, then he’ll know better that sending flirty messages probably isn’t the best idea. But hopefully you both feel the same way about each other and there will be less pressure and anxiety after talking it out
I really hope things work out for the both of y’all!! 
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Thank you, yes I am still in need of all advice I can get because I still I haven’t gotten the courage to really talk to him about this and am thinking it through. And I agree, love is veryyy complicated 
I am glad that you two still enjoy hanging out together. You never know what the future holds 
Thanks for your help
Hey do you see need advice?
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Hey! I don’t know if you still need advice but I would like to share my experience with you.
I’m pretty much dating my best friend. We met 4 years ago with the intentions of dating, however, that never happened. We were in different points in our lives where we didn’t know what or who we really wanted. As time went on, we have been on and off. We knew we had feelings for each other but like I said, we really didn’t know what or who we wanted. It was hard to be able to form a relationship when our feelings are being “denied” because of where we were in our lives. So I guess you could say right person, wrong time. When we knew we needed to focus on ourselves first, we developed a friendship. Honestly, I’m glad we did. Being friends first can really help to form a serious relationship because you already established a foundation between each other. Now, it is possible to just be friends and nothing more. Hearing “I just think we should be friends, I don’t want to ruin the friendship” is heartbreaking, especially when you have feelings for the person. I’ve heard it plenty of times… but as time went on, our lives were moving in a good direction, individually. Eventually our feelings became more prominent and it led to a real relationship.
So, what I’m trying to say is that, you have to really look at your life (where you are at in life) and decide if it’s time for a relationship. Just because you have feelings for someone doesn’t entirely mean it’s the right time to be with them. You two have to be on the same page. So you have to talk to him. I know it’s hard but how will you know if anything will progress if you wait for him to say something? Sometimes you have to make the first move and this is the time. If you really like him and want to be with him, then tell him. Relationships aren’t supposed to be easy. There will be things you have to work on to make it happen, and communication is where to start!
I hope this helped. I hope I wasn’t too late in responding lol.
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ok, so sweetie, i can’t read all of this because i suck at reading stuff on a screen.
but i think i have a basic idea from the title.
Honesty is a big factor here, just tell him before he finds out some other way. And if he doesn’t feel the same back, that’s ok, just try to keep your friendship. This happens a lot, so don’t feel weird about it. He’s just another guy you have a crush on, not saying he’s a bad friend or anything. But, I’d also think about your friendship here. This is hard to do, I ain’t gonna lie. But, if you play your cards right, it can go two maybe four ways. One, he may not feel the same and things get awkward. Two, he feels the same and it works out well. Three, he feels the same, but later on these feelings kinda leave and it gets weird. Lastly, he doesn’t return these feelings, but everything works well and you remain friends. If I am not to late to this party and you need help I am one PM away!
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Thank you all really, but I actually decided that I don’t want to risk years of friendship for a relationship that may not even work out in the end. So rn I am just trying to behave normally around him… I am trying to forget about my feelings by focusing on other things/friends and by keeping myself busy, mostly with my studies… I am not gonna lie, it is hard, but it’s for the best 
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Okay, if that is what you think you should do, I support you. I’m so proud of you for making your decision. Hope everything goes well and good luck! <3
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Thank you so much
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