Is it mandatory to cry at funerals?

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@lanafrazer_episode

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You can cry anytime you want even if you don’t really want to show how you feel.

-That’s quite true, never thought of it that way. Perhaps it wasn’t the right time and place to showcase my feelings. Thanks.

K.Logan

@K.Logan

you’re free to deal with your grief however you prefer!

@K.Logan

Hmm, thinking about it, that’s true. I am not like other people so the way I deal with things will be different from others. Thanks for that.

JustAperson

@JustAPerson

Thank you for your kind words.

@JustAPerson

because that’s just not how I show emotion.

I definitely agree with that, people are different.

@JustAPerson

fake tears are worse than no tears

Yes, most definitely, faking makes no sense.

PropertyofNae

@PropertyofNae

@PropertyofNae

Of course you might later on but everyone grieves differently at different times.

So true, I have no doubt in that. It just probably wasn’t the right time for me.

Farah_DeSanits

@Farah_DeSanits

Thanks for your wisdom. I didn’t know they do such things like hiring people to cry. Oh yes the expectations in a funeral, never thought about that either.

Anna_Marie

@Anna_Marie

@Anna_Marie

It feels too awkward and sappy.

Lol yea I couldn’t agree more. Sometimes we need to be strong and deal with the inevitable, head on.

ImAnAlien

@ImAnAlien

Laugh? I didn’t know that people do those things at funerals. Nah, I didn’t laugh.

scarlettm

@scarlettm

@scarlettm

It’s not mandatory. It just depends how close you were with the person. Honestly, I know this sound stupid, but I cried more when my uncle’s dog died than when my grandfather died.

Yes you are quite right. Nah, it not stupid at all. I felt sorrowful when my gold fish died some years ago.

Malannee

@Malannee

@Malannee

There’s people who laugh at funerals,

I didn’t know that people laugh at funerals, thanks for telling me.

@Malannee

Most times, people who are able not to cry and smile during hard times are also the strongest mentally.

True, well I think that I have my highs and lows, sometimes I’m strong sometimes I’m not.

author.elisabeth

Thanks, I appreciate your kind words and reply.

bakedpotato

@bakedpotato

@bakedpotato

He was a alcholic who would physically hurt my mum)

Oh my, sorry to hear that. Nah I would never smile at a funeral.

@bakedpotato

Don’t let the gossips in your family get to you as long as you know why then it is none of their business.

Yes, you are definitely right this. Thanks.

Rosenspitze

@Rosenspitze

Thank you for your kind words.

@Rosenspitze

And then there are others who are in shock, so they aren’t able to realise the death of their loved one.

Agreed. It felt like a normal day because I just didn’t believe it. Yea true people grieve differently. Yup they need to be open minded. You are very much right about this.

@Rosenspitze

And I don’t think your father would hold that against you if he could see you.

He knew that I was like this when he was alive so he wouldn’t hold it against me. Thanks for this.

Zondiewriter

@Zondiewriter

@Zondiewriter

Everybody expresses grief in different ways. Crying is not mandatory. Family always gossips, it’s their favourite thing to do.

Quite true. Lol wouldn’t doubt that.

@Zondiewriter

Some people even cry just for the sake of crying to seem “like they cared” and not be judged.

No one knows your pain better than you. Peopl

Yea it seems to be like a tradition to cry.

@Zondiewriter

head up high and if they even have the face to say it to you, make sure to tell them as it is “you don’t have the right to speak about something which you have no knowledge about.”

Thank you so much for this. Yes, I’ll remember that.

HipsterJenWen

@GretaMarisole

It’s fine, you didn’t say anything bad. I’m glad you’re straightforward about it and I’m able to learn about other people’s experience to know that I’m not wrong or going crazy…