In my story one of my LI’s is a “fem-boy” or a boy who dresses femine or has more femine qualities
I am bi/pan but obviously im not a fem boy. so i wanted to make sure this wasnt offensive in anyway
to anyone (and if theres a better term anyone knows of id like that too 
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As long as femininity is portrayed properly, it can’t be offensive
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As long as they aren’t sexualized for being a femboy, that seems fine from what I have learned (since I’m not a femboy either).
what would be considered sexualization? sorry for the dumb question but i want to avoid this.
Looks fine to me! Feminine men exist (and he looks great) just as long as they aren’t portrayed as a joke or homophobic stereotype!
It’s totally fine! It’s honestly a good question. What I mean by sexualizing, is like fetishizing them for the fact that they are acting feminine, so saying uncomfortable things such as “I know it’s big” and “rail me” (which are popular phrases used on social media) is what I mean by sexualization. Afterall, it is also sexual harassment. It makes acting “feminine” as a boy a sexual thing, rather than just a choice, or something that people enjoy to portray. Just let femboys live–no need to paint them in a sexual light. Authors need to be careful about that. I hope that makes sense.
Not at all! Clothes aren’t gendered, anyone can wear whatever they want (short of cultural appropriation, but simply wearing skirts isn’t a culture)!
