Okay…
I’ve seen lots of negative opinions about cliche’s and unrealistic relationships and characters…
I get it, everyone has their preferences, right?
But… let’s be REAL about realism.
Most people do not want to read about “real life.” Many people want to read about things that help them escape reality. Let’s discuss some (meaning not all) of the things we “hate” shall we?
Just to be clear:
When we talk about realism, at least for me, we mean things that happen in real life typically.
LOVE TRIANGLE:
Is a love triangle typical?? Nope. Would nearly every girl want to be the center of a guys world, to feel she is his everything and he would rather die than not be able to look at her every morning? Yep! Now what could top that? How about TWO guys absolutely drooling over you???OMG even better! So, yeah… a love triangle is not typical by any means, but it certainly is something we might all WANT to happen to us!
BAD BOY:
Is turning a bad boy into a good guy typical or realistic? Um no… not at ALL! But, do we all want to understand why bad people do what they do? Probably. Do we all hope that we are so darn irresistible that ONLY WE could warm a cold heart? Probably. Again, is it realistic? Nope. But it sure is something we may imagine or think about.
When I read, I want to read about things that I WOULDN’T encounter in real life (typically.) I want to “experience” things I know may never happen to me in real life. THIS is what makes these stories so exciting! THIS is why I read. I don’t want to read about two average people, meeting in an average place, having an average conversation, and having an average love story. This, to me, is not exciting. Its average… AKA boring.
Reading is supposed to be an escape for the writer and reader alike… our innermost curiosities, desires, fears, and unrealistic, selfish, needs being met through an alternate reality, where odds and chances change so we can experience the “unrealistic” and “rare” events. Events where two guys are madly in love with you, and a bad boy is willing to change his ways because you are so perfect in his eyes!
Many will not agree with me, but I just wanted to say that we need to keep in mind that the writers story, and the readers mind are their own. Some minds enjoy overly dramatic baby drama stories, some like daring love stories, and some like fantastical stories… Everyone already KNOWS they are not realistic. That’s kinda the point. I hate pregnancy stories, but that’s just me. Many people like them and that’s fine. I DO love “THE ONE” stories. Not realistic in anyway, but that’s why I love them!
So long as what we write does not cross our own moral compass (and guidelines), we should be able to write what we want and readers should be able to read what they want.
What do you think?
(Keep the comments respectful, please. Remember, we all have our own opinions and we should know when its better to agree to disagree.)
Edited to add: Please forgive any spelling, grammar, or punctuation errors… I only scanned once (and quickly) for errors! HA!!