Not everyone has a terrible time in foster care. Yes, some do. And I’m not like pushing them aside or anything. I had a best friend when I was really little, and he was in a nice foster family. His original parents were alcoholics and would verbally abuse him. So he did go into a foster family, and they were really nice. I’ve not seen him for many years, because um, he did develop a crush on me and he controlled me and eventually hurt me, physically and verbally, but I do hope he’s doing okay.
The only type of abuse is not physical or sexual. I was verbally and sometimes physically abused, also neglected by my parents for many years. Sexually by someone else once. And these stories often don’t portray the abuse well, and they don’t show how the MC is affected. Maybe in the story, she stands up for herself, maybe she doesn’t, maybe she cries. But they don’t talk about the flashbacks, they don’t talk about how what people did to you stays with you for your entire life. They don’t talk about what people call you can define you and make up your entire identity. They don’t talk about how it affects your other relationships with other people, how it changes the way you see and interact with the world. Yeah, some people do recover. Some people have the strength and honestly, the luck, to have it not affect them as much as others. But all abuse, even if it’s just for a little while, even if it’s not that bad, it always wounds and always leaves a scar. Some of the scars fade, others don’t. Mine haven’t and probably never will.
And with physical/sexual abuse, yes, the punches and hits and scars and violation hurts. Obviously, I mean, why wouldn’t they? But often, it’s not them that’s the most painful, ya know? It’s the feeling of someone who is supposed to care for you and love you and protect you, it’s the feeling of those people betraying you and turning on you and hurting you.
Don’t put foster care as an excuse or a reason for the MC to be ‘broken’ so that the LI can fix her. I mean, you know what? A lot of people who have been abused struggle to maintain or even get into relationships because they’re so scared that it might happen all over again. But no, not in Episode stories! There’s just this one guy who she instantly falls for and trusts him with everything.
Anyway, I’m super late here but thanks for coming to my long ass ted talk