Life can be hard: Do you want **help**?

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#1

I know life can be very difficult.

That’s why I want to try to help other people who can help each other. No matter what it’s about.

If anyone needs help or someone to talk to, just write me.

Even if you’re bored, you’re sad, you just need social contact.

Or if you feel alone and everyone tells you "There is always someone who loves and cares about you" just write me!

You can also write me if you just want to, even if it’s just a word.

It makes me happy when someone writes to me.

Of course you don’t have to write me.

I wish you all a happy day :slight_smile:

That’s what just crossed my mind.


Thinking of making a forums therapy group!
The Confession Thread 😘
#2

You can tell me what’s bothering you. And who knows? Maybe others feel the same way or have the same problem.


#3

Thanks…


#4

Do you want to PM me?


#5

Yeah.


#6

Can I PM?


#7

you can PM me if you want


#8

Oy course


#9


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#10

I wish I would kill myself sooner or later


#11

Wow… you shouldn’t say that. Things sure might be hard but they won’t remain hard forever.


#12

Same :ok_hand:


#13

God people never talk like that. You know if something happens to you there we some people who will get devastated? Hurt and depressed?


#14

Eh no one really cares about me except for maybe my mom and me ending it all wouldn’t be a surprise to her


#15

It’s hard to find the meaning of life
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LIFE IS JUST CRUEL and hard

The people who really like/love you are the reason to live for


#16

Wow… there might be people you think don’t care but actually love you more than you know. Besides you don’t have to do it for someone else. Be strong for yourself.


#17

I feel this very often this way, ALONE, HURT
That’s why I want to help people
You will find someone who loves you And cares for you deep in his heart
But if you think that no one likes you, I may don’t know you, but I like you


#18

Thank y’all for writing in this topic…
Means so much to mee:)


#20

Theres no life left for me


#21

Self harm recovery projects:

The Butterfly Project:

  1. when you feel like you want to cut, take a marker or pen and draw a butterfly on wherever the self-harm occurs.
  2. name the butterfly after a loved one, or someone that really wants you to get better.
  3. NO scrubbing the butterfly off.
  4. if you cut before the butterfly is gone, it dies. if you don’t cut, it lives.
  5. if you have more than one, cutting kills them all.
  6. another person may draw them on you. these butterflies are extra special. take good care of them.
  7. even if you don’t cut, feel free to draw a butterfly anyways, to show your support. if you do this, name it after someone you know that is suffering right now, and tell them. it could help.

The Paper Chain Project:

  1. For every day you go without self harming or purging, add a colorful link to the paper chain
  2. If you relapse, just add a white link to to the chain and carry on the chain without any disruption
  3. Over time the paper chain will grow in length and you can see your progress, and see that even if you do relapse, the are still days you go without hurting yourself. The colorful links.
  4. Over time and through your recovery watch the amount of colored links begin to increase, and the amount of white links begin to decrease.
  5. If you feel like hurting yourself, look at the paper chain and realize just how far you’ve made it, and realise that if you’ve resisted before you can do it again

Journaling:

  1. DELAY: delay giving in to the urge for a set amount of time. Write down this amount of time and set a timer.
  2. DISTRACT: do an activity that will occupy your thoughts and use your physical energy. Write a list of things you could do.
  3. DECIDE: after the set time period, decide how you’re going to respond to the urge. Write down: advantages, disadvantages, reasons you want to stop, life goals.

You can also try distracting your mind. Do something where you are able to focus you mind on and be physical at the same time whenever you feel the urge to cut coming on.

For example:

  • Exercise: yoga, Pilates zumba, dance, jogging, and if you have a gym membership go there.
  • Take a leisurely stroll through a park or even your neighborhood.
  • If you have a pet, try to teach them a trick.
  • Watch a crappy movie marathon, or have a marathon of your favorite show.
  • Take a nice relaxing bubble bath
  • read a book
  • listen to loud music and sing along to it and dance around if you have to
  • go out with friends, or call up your boyfriend and see if you can spend some time together (nothing special just hang out).
  • play video games
  • try tetris, a crossword puzzle, mind games

Coping skills for any addiction, self harm included:

Need to express pain and intense emotions

  • Paint, draw, or scribble on a big piece of paper with red ink or paint
  • Express your feelings in a journal
  • Compose a poem or song to say what you feel
  • Write down any negative feelings and then rip the paper up
  • Listen to music that expresses what you’re feeling

If you need to calm and soothe yourself

  • Take a bath or hot shower
  • Pet or cuddle with a dog or cat
  • Wrap yourself in a warm blanket
  • Massage your neck, hands, and feet
  • Listen to calming music
  • Color in a coloring book
  • Plant flowers

If you feel disconnected and numb

  • Call a friend (you don’t have to talk about self-harm)
  • Take a cold shower
  • Hold an ice cube in the crook of your arm or leg
  • Chew something with a very strong taste, like chili peppers, peppermint, or a grapefruit peel.
  • Go online to a self-help website, chat room, or message board

If you need to release tension or vent anger

  • Exercise vigorously—run, dance, jump rope, or hit a punching bag
  • Punch a cushion or mattress or scream into your pillow
  • Squeeze a stress ball or squish Play-Doh or clay
  • Rip something up (sheets of paper, a magazine)
  • Make some noise (play an instrument, bang on pots and pans)

Substitutes for the cutting sensation

  • Use a red felt tip pen to mark where you might usually cut
  • Rub ice across your skin where you might usually cut
  • Put rubber bands on wrists, arms, or legs and snap them instead of cutting or hitting
  • Cut an apple with your blades, scissors, knife, etc

Helpful Links:

Here is a master post on coping with urges to self harm:

More self harm help/recovery links

Keep me updated? I’d love to hear back from you <3