Heyo.
Took a little hiatus for a month or so, but I’m back now! That’s not the reason I made this thread though.
I need advice, since most of the people I know/trust are currently biased and not willing to believe me and my bf’s side of the argument with my ex friend. (APOLOGIES FOR THE BAD GRAMMAR, I AM CURRENTLY TIRED AT THE MOMENT)
I have been best friends with this girl for 7+ years in my lifespan, so I pretty much knew her since we were young. However, since I had started dating my current other best friend back in November when we both confessed, she has been acting very strange since then. She constantly kept calling him names (which I will not go into detail since it might result in a flag, but they were super offensive.), spam us whenever she’s “bored”, “needs help on a quiz”, and pretty much more, and not to mention; she would also say very weird phrases whenever we were talking about like hugging and other normal couple stuff. e.x: if (insert bf’s name) hugs/kisses (my name), i will chop off his d…" Additionally, she would always blame him that he only “uses” me for homework help and more, but she did the same thing for a few tests. She also says that she hates him, us as a ship/couple, and that we should break up asap. To top it off, she’ll even take pictures of him and make these “dEpReSsEd” or “UwU aNiMe gIrL” edits of him, which disgust me but she said it was a “joke.” This resulted in my other very good friends making fun of him for it, and calling him a “she.” Also, in one of the edits my ex friend made, she pointed out he had “long nose hairs.” I never found it funny, but I just sort of played along; knowing deep inside that he was very hurt and offended by them… ://
That isn’t even the end of it. She had this idea to make a discord “heist” server where we can just rob and heist people’s Dank Memer (bot, not real person) banks, but my bf was the actual one who made the server. They had even got into an argument a few days before Valentine’s Day all because he kicked her out of that server when he was literally the one who made it, but she claimed that it was her’s. After that, inside the gc we have, she kept saying things like “f___ you (both names), YOU SHOULD OF STOPPED HIM”, “UGH WHO KICKED ME”, etc. So, she’s blaming me for him kicking her out of “her” server when I wasn’t even the one who kicked her out? Well, I have homework, a language class, guitar lessons, and online classes to do and you have the nerve to blame me for something someone else did to you, all because he’s someone I am in a romantic relationship with? I wanted to tell her that they should of settled the issue privately, but I did not want to make the situation worse than it already was. When she got back inside the server, she literally SPAMMED AND BEGGED me for ownership back when it was not even her server. (To clear confusion, he did make the server but transferred ownership to her.) Did we resolve it yet? NOPE! She ended up telling almost her entire online friend group about the argument, and of course them being her best friends; they took her side without listening to our’s. They only decided to listen to her all because they trusted her more than they trusted us, it just wasn’t fair! Then, later on, we had all gotten into an argument in a private dm saying how she had been very toxic and needy of our attention for the simplest things, being kicked from the server, and furthermore! Not to mention, she stole my minecraft hut all because of this argument, and claims it as her’s too??? SMH, I BUILT IT AND I GOT ALL THE SUPPLIES IN THERE TOO.
A few days ahead to the current present time, it seems that very little people are taking our side. They would say that my bf is in the wrong, and they would defend her. I’m guessing (which means I don’t actually know why he kicked her from the heist server, but it’s worth a guess) the reason why she was kicked was because he was done dealing w all the insults, bullying, and other mean remarks/messages from her. Anyways, today we tried to talk to someone in her online friend group (the one she told the argument about), and we just wanted to talk to one of them about our side and add more context since my ex friend’s version was very short and brief. However, after telling her about everything, she still said she would stay with her; EVEN REGARDLESS OF WHAT WE SAID. Then, she added another person and then they also started siding with her too. So, overall, it seems like no one cared to listen to our longer and more descriptive version of the fight which is completely true; but they pick the short and brief one my 7+ year insulting, rude, toxic, (sometimes) impolite, etc. ex close friend made up. I am done, I am not going to try to convince people to reason with our side and see the ACTUAL reason the argument happened when all they will say is “I’m sticking to (insert name)'s side.” or just back her up. This is technically them being biased, and not to mention; another friend group also believes her! So, y’know what; I don’t care anymore. They can listen to her side of the story, since it’s more “believable” to them.
I just don’t know anymore, very little people are taking our side of the story and it kind of makes me mad because she’s making us look in the wrong. I plan to just block and ignore her, but does anyone have advice for this situation? This won’t be a simple “forgive and forget” situation, since the teasing and the remarks had been going on for 4 months, but the arguments were recent.
Thanks to those that can help, ily. <3
-Ly, who used to be known as Lino.
