This is to people whose parents are divorced/not together 
How did this impact you? Feel free to discuss your story/thoughts on this and only share if you are comfortable 
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My mom and dad recently got divorced and honestly, Iām sort of ok. At first it was hard on me because even though I knew a lot of people did it, I never thought that my family would be that family. I always thought we would be that family who stuck together. And it was also difficult because I hardly ever see my dad anymore.
I also had never seen the divorce coming.
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I love both of my parents immensely, but Iām sort of a daddyās girl.
I was six when they divorced, and it felt like my world crumbled.
Dad saw us ever now and then, but then he didnāt.
He finally started to come around again when I was in high school, but I refused to see him.
Later that year, my best friend, my grandma passed away.
I spiraled pretty fast over the next year and ended up in a short term mental facility.
They had family therapy sessions, and I fully intended on telling my mother everything that she had been doing wrong since they divorced.
The last thing I expected was to see me dad, needless to say I broke down.
After this, I moved in with my Dad while seeing my mom often.
Until I moved in with him, the divorce felt black and white, and it hurt to have such a simple answer of āWe just didnāt work.ā
They went through a lot. The death of my uncle, a miscarriage, being two totally opposite peopleā¦ Eventually leading to my mother admitting she never loved him.
Not to mention, my Dadās new ex wife had been manipulating him to stay away from us for six years. When he realized it, he left her.
Now that I am grown, and know the full story, Iām not angry at them.
As children we are sort of āselfishā in regards to things like this. I realized that there was no way they would have been happy together. At the end of the day, I love both of my parents and I want nothing more than for them to be happy.
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My parents separated when I was about 2 years old so I donāt really remember what it was like. Iām very used to having separated parents, since itās all I know, Iām always a little shocked when I hear that peopleās parents are still together since I just donāt know that life I guess. I thought it was mostlyā¦ annoying when I was little, moving from one parent to another every week. I was in some way, even tho I donāt know what thatās like, sad that my parents didnāt live together. But now Iām kinda fine with it. I rarely even think about it. Idkā¦ itās normal for me. 
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My dad was honestly the worst person alive. He always seemed so nice to me but as I got older I see him for who he really is. He left my mom and got married and heās put her through alot. I honestly donāt care about him anymore. I look up to my mom for guidance but I feel that if he did stay with my mom things wouldāve been way worse.
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Thank you for sharing guys!
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I donāt get, why get married when you donāt love each other? 
Sometimes i dream about what itās like to have parents who love each other and be raised by bothā¦just one big happy familyā¦i daydream a lot 
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Well my dad got custody of me,whenever I came over to my mumās they would argue, which always would upset me. But this was one thing I had to put up with since my sister had lived with my mum at the time. But as we got older my parents got along much better and my sister went to live with our grandfather but right now Iāve been caught in the middle of a lot of drama lately since i no longer live with him and none of us live together and my sister now lives on a different islandā¦ Every holiday is always the same now, DRAMA over who gets to see her. (Thatās all that I can disclose about the situation)
It truly sucks constantly being forced to pick sides all the time
But sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have a normal family, ya knowā¦ one house with both parents, living with your siblings does anyone else ever think about that?
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My thoughts here
I do, I wish there werenāt fights, unhappiness. I wish we could eat dinner together like a normal family and tell each other jokes 
I do love my parents very much thoughā¦well because theyāre my parents ^^
Rest of thoughts removed because I wasnāt going to keep them up long 
And, thank you for sharing! 
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I know how you feel, although they never married
I relate to this part most of all, the sad reality is a lot of us will never be able to experience this until we have a family of our own. At the same time I do understand my parentsā situation so I really cannot place much blame on them
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True, but Iām not planning on having a family, I donāt want to risk putting my future kids through any pain
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Thats totally fine and I totally understand how you feel, which is why Iām very cautious about relationshipsā¦dont want history to repeat itself 
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Oof, do I have a story. I remember this as the worst day of my life.
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My parents divorced in 2013, I was 15 at the time. Iād had friends whose parents were divorced so it wasnāt a new concept to me. But Iād never thought it would happen to my family. I remember waking up one morning, quite angry because I was woken up by what I thought was someone laughing too loudly. When I left my bedroom, I was confronted with the sight of my Dad on the floor crying with my sister hugging him tightly (She wouldāve been 12 or 13) and my Mum in tears as well standing in the lounge.
I had no idea what was happening, and I was still angry because I wanted to sleep in, so I asked why everyone was crying. My Mum walked out and went downstairs and my Dad said that my Mum is leaving him. I remember in vivid detail how my blood turned to ice. I donāt remember what I said in-between then and when he explained why, but I was definitely in denial about the whole thing. I also donāt deal very well with people crying in front of me, and I had to somehow be the peacemaker in this situation. (I think I was forced to grow up a lot in that moment.) I remember my dad telling me, through tears, why they were getting a divorce (Iām not going to say the reason why because itās my parents business and no one elseās). I had no idea what to do, so I walked downstairs to where my Mum was and asked her for the truth. She broke down in tears, and so did I.
When I went back upstairs, my dad was still on the floor and my sister was crying her eyes out. The rest of that day is blank for me. I just donāt want to think about it or remember it. I donāt know if it was the same day or the day after, but I was sitting on the couch crying my eyes out and my Mumās friend came over to help with the situation. Everyone was a mess. I remember saying over and over that āI didnāt want to moveā because at that moment I didnāt want to think about how my life had suddenly just changed so much. I honestly never saw it coming. For the next few weeks my Mum stayed at a work friendās house while my dad, sister, and I, all tried to bring her back. I thought this was something we could get over, we could fix it eventually. Spoiler: it never got fixed. My mum recovered from it pretty quickly but my Dad was a wreck for months.
Eventually we all started to come to terms with it, I talked to my sister about it and she was clearly traumatised about the whole thing. She told me how sheād found out the reason why my parents were getting divorced. I still canāt fathom how a 12 year old mustāve felt about that situation. I started to realise that it actually was something inevitable. My parents had constantly fought, and we were never a really close family like I thought we were.
My dad met my step-mum and she is one of the loveliest people in the world. My mum is living with her boyfriend. I now have two step-brothers who are two of the funniest people I know. My sister and I would switch weeks at each parentās house and they are still amicable to each other. Thereās no petty fighting between the two.
Last year I made a decision to move in with my mum permanently until I can find a place of my own thatās cheap enough for a broke uni student, and my sister moved in with my dad while she finishes school. At first, I was worried about the decision and how it would affect the parent I didnāt live with, but I overthought it too much. itās not as bad as I thought it was, and I still visit my dad every now and then.
I hated that my parents were getting divorced, but am I happy that it happened now? 100%.
Iām now so much closer to both my parents, I feel like I lost a part of me that day, but I donāt really want it back. Do I have issues from the situation? Yes, I do. But, both my parents seem so much more happier with their current partners now than they ever did with each other. It took time, but everyone healed. Thatās all that matters. The situation could have been a whole lot worse and Iām extremely lucky that it isnāt.
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My mother divorced my dad when I was six so naturally I donāt even remember that much of her. When they split up, my mom said downright that she didnāt want to have me because I was small then and raising up kids was not what she wanted to do. But she was ready to take my big brother in but me and my bro wanted to like be with the same parent so in the end, we both ended up with my dad.
I think what happened was for good because I got so close to my dad and my brother. There was no woman in our house for a long time so I grew up with boys, and of course my choices and opinions formed according to that. My dad did a great job raising us but then he got married and the woman was just too ugh. But her and my dadās son is just too cute and sweet so I think even that happened for good. Now they are separated but we are all happy. There is not much to be happy about so I just keep thinking whatever happened was for good because thatās the way you can live happily.
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Iām dealing with it , I mean , hey ! Iām still alive 
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But thereās one thing that annoys me so much :
"Youāll get used to it "
Really? Will we really get used to our lives constantly changing ? Iām not referring this to everyone whoās parents were divorced but it isnāt a choice . itās not where if you make a mistake itās fine , you can try again later . No. A parental divorce affects the whole family even if they are young and it affects their future too .
So next time , if you hear someone say their parents just got divorced , donāt tell them youāll get used to it but help them prepare for the changes theyāre facing .
Xx
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