I have a very short temper which is much harder to control during Coronavirus Lockdown
I apologise for everything! Even when Iâm not sorry at all
If something goes wrong in a relationship, I blame myself and analyse everything said just to find a fault on my behalf (Even when there isnât one)
If I donât catch something someone says to me or I donât understand a text message someone sends I by default say/text âyesâ or âyeah sureâ which doesnât always end well as u can imagine
I am known to screw up most opportunities/good things in my life by either saying some thing wrong (by accident) or by misreading when has been said/shown causing me to react in the wrong way (again by accident)
I am indecisive and so I always spend a while making a decision of any sort
I get irritated if I donât understand something which always causes me to loose my temper and mess whatever Iâm doing up (:
I always challenge myself too hard and cause myself to not manage to finish whatever Iâm doing (:
well it was very hard at first but when i learned how not to punch that jerk who upset me i tried using that so called ânegative or bad energyâ as something useful or to do something i would never do in general again bc im too lazy
what i do:
i leave the room when i start to get furious to be alone and figure out what to do bc if i punch (kill) someone ill get in trouble and talking is basically a waiste of oxygen and energy
so back to the point; when i make up my crazy mind i go and do the thing i thought will be productive (clean my room, do homework, never study when angry~ its useless, if i have a ball near me i go in the garden and start hitting the wall with it (something like playing handball only with a wall), or just try to sleep, if not then i go out and play with my dog or go on a run (i never actually went on a run bc i was angry, but i had to run on my training when i was furious and that is the best score i can get), exercising is a god here or especially running (im not a big fan of running myself but it really helps when trying to calm yourself down)âŠ
thats practicly what i do im not the best to ask these kinds of questions bc im just a teenager who started having those issues about a year ago and i, sometimes, still want to smash that persons head into the sink but oh well
im still learning these kinda of things and im not anywhere near experts to say what helps u bc everybody is different; meaning these âtipsâ wont help everyone
but the best option that work for me is running and cleaning my room (since its a hot mess and there are a lot of things for such a small room so there are many details = much more time and energy wasted (finally spelt it right)
Ever since I was young, I had an imaginary reality of this girl named Tely(Tee-Lee). I had the house,family, neighborhood, and her outfits and appearance and friends down to a T.
tbh, leaving the room isnât helpful (for me personally).
i get angry at school the most (itâs when i actually have to interact with people, dumb people who joke about things they really shouldnât) so if i just leave then everyone will talk about it.
yay, my hidden anger issuesđ„ł
iâve only been forcefully sent outside once, and itâs because this kid in my class would NOT be quiet (he never is, even rn during zoom he ALWAYS has to snort and make a comment). the entire grade can collectively agree that weâd kick him out. of the f(0)cking state.
but yeah, then i feel too sad to actually get out of bed and exercise.
the only time i actually feel calm, is the middle of the night so i sleep during the day in order to get myself to be normal. i guess incorporating things i do at night during the day helps a lot. for example, i drink way more water at night and i have a lot of private time with no noise.
and thanks, iâll remember to not make myself even more stressed by doing âproductiveâ things that get me literally nowhere. i guess i overlook this because what has to get done, has to get done and i donât realize that all this energy is being wasted. itâs hard enough being motivated, especially when anger is your motivation for the most part.
sooooooo, these did help. itâs nice hearing these tips from someone else who wonât try to convince you to go to therapy. even if i still struggle after this, at least i wonât be treated like an asylum patient. parents arenât always help ig
(and can i say, itâs SO MUCH easier being nice through the screen than it is in real life. especially because itâs the episode forums and everyone has been nice so far)
this reminds me of a tik tok i watched. this girl was talking about the theory that when you dream of someone, theyâre actually thinking about you.
she was saying that if this is true, then itâs possible that your childhood âfriendsâ could be real, in a different reality or something? and that YOUâRE her imaginary friend in HER world. idk, sounds like a movie plot line, or wattpad storyđ
edit: imaginary friend in a âdaydreamâ way like you said. an actual body you can see wouldnât be the same ig
Oh I had an imaginary friend named Henny. My mom had a grandmother named Henny, who I never knew about. She said one day I said that Henny was no longer there.
i can relate
we have this annoying brat in class and wont stop kicking us out of a zoom class and its so annoying
i got into a fight with him but it was over whatsapp bc were in quarantine and i was soo pissed off i had to go to bathroom (to somehow calm myself) so i wouldnt break something or someone
and to calm myself even more i did the âanger issuesâ quiz/test and guess what
so anyways, iâve never actually been so angry in school bc we were online already and even when we werent nobody came near me bc they probably wouldnt be standing rn sooâŠ
i agree with being nice
im just such an evil person and idc about anyone but noone knows it bc âim an angelâ mhmm
but i sometimes still habe troble handling these anger issues especially when it comes to texting
im rarely able to stop myself from jelling at the person from texting i usually get sooo mad i really want to kill them but i cant ;-; bc its illegal ;-;
so anyways, when ur in class not online i guess u cab drink water or ask to go to toilet and wash ur face and try to cool down it didnt work for me but oh well
and about therapy; i got my anger issues from dads genes and he and i have the same problem but he doesnt know exactly how bad it gets
its like everything u see gets darker and red and u just want that one person 's head to pay but i guess we canr do that ;-;
ive actually been to therapy a few times (but not bc of anger issues) and its boringgg and weird and it just makes me more angry tbh
tbh, it makes me uncomfortable knowing that my parents get loud when theyâre mad, but not as quite bad as me. my brother just gets all insecure and depressed when he feels bad. but then me over here, is thinking about hurting people and it makes me angrier. my mind doesnât work as theirsâ do and thatâs really frustrating.
THIS! my brother goes to therapy every thursday and thereâs no way iâd be in a good mental state to even think about going near that f(0)cking place. especially if theyâre about to pry into my head and fix whatâs apparently âbrokenâ.
well i went to therapy when i was little bc i had low sugar a few times and i would black out but it doesnt matter now
i have the same âmindâ as my dad when it comes to anger issues - we both want to hurt people pretty bad and not by words
well music helps sometimes
i mean it helps me calm down when im not angry but if im already furious it makes me more angry i listten to some metallic shit so when it makes me more angry ill be angry but much less time then when not listening to music
