Hm, this is quite an interesting story. Also, proud of you for being out for a long time, that’s amazing!
Maybe you could explain to them that you still have romantic attraction, but only for physical rather than just emotional (like overly sappy or extra). I’m sure they’ll understand though, you just have to be honest and sort of straightforward if it’s brought up in any conversations. :))
You can just show them this topic if you would like, If you can’t explain it with your voice you can maybe let them read this and they would understand better.
Thanks! 
That actually might be a good solution. 
I’ll have to think about that. Thank you!
No problem 
Hey, @CrimsonCat6, maybe try writing or typing out a letter to explain everything that you’re feeling, instead of having to explain it verbally… this would probably be a good idea bc if you’re socially awkward like me, it’d just be SOOOOOOOO much easier then saying it verbally 
Yeah I agree 
I might try something like that
Welcome to the aro ace community! While I know it’s not the same thing, we aces and aros gotta stick together! Good luck with your family!!!
Yeah!! Thank you 
Thank you all so much for your responses and support 
Your family sound lovely, supportive and accepting 
I’m heterosexual (straight)
It’s kinda took me long time to figure out what my sexuality was, I know I’m straight but I wanted to know the real word for it, and it was heterosexual.
Heterosexual means your attracted to the opposite gender.
I’m also not sure if I’m part of the lgbtq community or not
Since you’re straight, you’re part of the LGBTQ+ community if you support everyone who identifies with it 
(unless you’re trans, then you’re part of it by default)
I am lesbian, I KNOW this 100%
But a bit similar to you, I HATE romantic stuff. For example, if my girlfriend bought me to a fancy restaurant with the saxaphone and started being all like
‘I love you with my heart and Ill be with you untill we die’ I would have to run away.
I don’t mind the ‘I love you’ or ‘I never wanna leave you’
But- idrk how to explain it.
Like if someone filled the bath and put roses in it for me I’d have to decline. Like I hate things like that, which are so romanitc.
Also idk the label for this but I would NEVER be in a PHYSICAL relationship. I wouldn’t KISS or have SEX
I am sex-repulsed and the only physical thing I want in a relationship is hugs.
Idk the label for this and google doesnt understand what Im asking so yea.
Interesting
I might have an idea of what you may be feeling, but obviously your identity is yours and you should choose how you label yourself. And I obviously don’t know exactly how you feel (I’m just going off what you told me)
But before I say anything, do you actually want me to find you a “label”?
Ok, thanks for telling me and I actually support the lgbtq community.
I mean yes please that would be good because then i would know what I am and rn its kinda fustrating having to explain to people when they don’t understand, giving them the name of it would be much easier 
Okay cool. Again, you’re the only one who knows your own feelings and I’m only saying this going off of what you said. I could be totally wrong.
From what you’re telling me it sounds like you’re AroAce. As in Aromantic Asexual.
Being repulsed at the idea is sex is a common sign of asexuality, however some people can feel sexual attraction and just not like to have sex. So if a woman arouses you, then you’re not ace.
Your explanation definitely sounds like aromanticism to me, as your uncomfortable with the idea of sappy and/or sentimental romantic pleasure. However, the only thing that makes people aro is the fact that they don’t feel long term romantic attraction, or they don’t feel the need to be in a romantically committed relationship. Aros can still feel infatuation, like I do, but that’s different.
From what you said about your girlfriend, it kinda sounds like you’re interested in a queerplatonic relationship, which is a relationship some aros form with people they form close bonds with (typically a close friend). Since aros don’t feel the need to have a romantic relationship in the longrun, some aros form queerplatonic relationships so they can still have a life partner.
If this is the kind of relationship you want, or feel you are interested in, then I believe you only want this kind of relationship with women. My guess is that you find women aesthetically pleasing, and you feel infatuation towards women you find attractive. You just don’t feel the need to form a close romantic bond. The “I love you”’s could possibly just be friendly to you. For example, I tell my friends I love them all the time, because I do. I’m sure you do love your girlfriend, but maybe not in a traditional way.
I hope this helps in a way. Again, I could be totally wrong because I don’t know you or how you feel. But I hope some of this seems or sounds familiar in some way 
Thank you so much! All of it sounds like me apart from when me and my girlfriend say I love you I do mean it in a different way as I say to friends. Apart from that, it is what i feel and i thank you so much since i couldnt get answers from google!
Aw I’m I could help! 
So I know you commented on one of my threads so I thought I’d give my 2 cents. I’ve always been more feminine than most guys I grew up with and never felt right as a boy. My dad came out as gay when I was 11 and that introduced me to the LGBT+ community. After learning more about it I confided in my friend about my feeling like a girl and slowly began wearing more feminine clothes, growing my hair, etc. I came out to my dad as trans when I was 15 and he helped me tell my mom. She was surprised but supportive and asked if I like boys. I don’t. I’m very much gay. I started hormone therapy last year and was able to register in school (we moved for my moms job) as female. I think the easiest way to tell people is to be honest and have a backup plan in case something goes wrong.