I wanted to point that out, actually 
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Brkdhskwhw WHY YOU DO THIS TOO ME 
I’m sorry I should’ve like…went along with our marriage trust me when me and my girl decide to break off I hope you’re still available 
Of course son you’re my son and I getcha fully. I love but my religion as well.
Hardiharhar 
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Well that’s ok. But that doesn’t mean you’re a homophobe. Just because your family is, if you don’t actually feel the same way and you’re just doing it to make them not mad, you’re not homophobe
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What’s been six days? Have you been keeping count? 
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Awwwwwww hon I’m so sorry to hear that maybe the spark can come again sometime. 
I’m laughing too hard I need water
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Jdeisheiwhwjwhwhww IM SORRY 
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Trash Cam FINISH
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Bdidhsiwhwjw IM SORRY I KNOW THE WAY NOW AND ID HAPPILY MARRY YOU then divorce you
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She has strong opinions
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Saaame lol
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Damn Cam you go hon!
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pssst…she was thaarsty…
I can’t believe I said that…
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Okay, I’m MONTHS late, so most of this may be useless now, but here it goes.
ShortSpaces
@ShortSpaces
Okay, that guy sounds like a complete asshole and tbh should be under vigilance because that’s very likely to be antisocial behaviour (no, not asocial, but anti social, as in against society, and this behavious is usually caused by a mental illness, be it psychopathy or sociopathy (those are the most common)). I know this was a few months ago but, how has everything gone since then?
Lisette
thanks
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, this thread is like a blessing to me and the fact that you made it means A LOT to me, so thank you for making it. I’m just trying to give back all the advice and positivity that people have given me and that has inspired me, because hey, if people like this fam can exist the world may not be such a sucky place, and then it’s my duty to help make it less sucky, right?
Thank you sososososo much, I love you!
<3
Please don’t force yourself to be active here if you don’t feel comfortable. I would hate it if this place were to bring you and bad feeling, because you don’t deserve any of them.
I can assure you that we have not forgotten you, though, you are a legendary forumer among a lot of us, and this thread is an amazing place many of us love. And I’m sure most of us would receive you with open arms any time, because we all really appreciate you being here.
It’s not selfish to want recognition, you have done a lot of amazing things, and you deserve the recognition for that, because it has helped a lot of us in ways you can’t even imagine.
What you don’t deserve is the feeling of being unloved, because you’re a lovely girl who has done a lot for all of us, and you can only be respected, admired, and loved for that.
For the validation, you have my validation for everything you do. But please remember, you are enough. Heck, you’re more than enough, you’re brilliant, and every little thing you accomplish is a victory.
Please don’t give up on your dreams, I know you will be able to accomplish them. And if I can help in anyway for you to accomplish them, I’d be honoured to do so.
hehe
Same here, I’ve been trying to catch up for weeks, there’s a lot of things that have happened.
Also, i’m really happy to see you around :3
I’m really sorry that there have been issues and fights in here. You know how much this threads means to a lot of us, and a lot of awesome people have tried to keep peace, but sometimes things get out of hand.
I hope you enjoy outside the forums. I know I’ve been gone from this thread, but I plan to keep up with it again, so I’ll try to take care of things around here.
akshbclaidhcblbh You are amazing! I love you
AnonymousAuthor1
1
I have to agree with you, some people can be really mean to each other. However there’s no point in being mean, because in all honesty, those are the people who are wasting their times in spreading negativity, not you, and even though it’s hard, people can learn to let these comments slide. In my opinion, insults say more about those who use them than about the people they’re directed to. Because, yes, they may point out something I feel insecure about, but that’s honestly not their business, so they’re just wasting their time. And you can know that, as long as you are okay with who you are, no one can affect you.
People will say things all of the time, even though sometimes they shouldn’t. We human beings are critical creatures, and since the sight is the first sense to receive information, people judge others A LOT on their appearances. But that won’t ever change who the person is, because you are your brain and your soul, and people can’t see or judge that, at least not right away. And, again, when you know who you are and like it, then you’re unstoppable.
racism, homophobia, sexism etc
I read that rant a while ago, and I liked it a lot. You brought up a lot of important issues, and while, I can’t say much about it, I can say that, even though all of that exists, I am very, very glad you and the people who commented there are aware of the issues and want it to change. So thank you very much for sharing that with all of us.
I know we have a long way to go, and I know it’s stressing. But it’s through people like you that the world can become better. So thank you.
dandylou
@dandylou I’m never clear faced either, I have PCOS, so the excess androgens make my face break out a lot (even though they make me feel validated af because of gender issues). Please try to get your hormone imbalance checked, since it could be dangerous, but remember, this is you, and being authentic is the purest form of beauty (ask Plato), so honestly? Rock whoever you are with proud.
NeonLeah
@LillyR
That woman sounds really annoying, and honestly, even though you my not be able to say anything to her or call her out, but you could counter politely every time she makes an inappropriate comment. Tbh the only way to deal with prejudiced people is to educate them and to help them see the faults in their ways, so maybe you could make small comments about how you can work there too, or how it’s your choice, and maybe, these comments may stick with her and make her consider rethinking her attitude.
I know this was months ago so… How have things gone?
Briana_M
@Briana_M
Celebrities exist because we, as humans who are often in contact with other humans, have chosen to recognise them, to admire them, and to give them a place in our worlds.
I am not sure what you mean by saying that they’re favoured more than others (English is not my first language, so sorry about any misunderstanding), yes, they’re generally more recongnised, but being in the spotlight also means that they receive a ton of criticism (seriously, I don’t know a single celebrity that hasn’t been criticised). But by the end, we’re all just human beings, and we all receive both recognition and criticism in some sort of way.
It’s not possible for everyone be treated just the same as others, be it for a celebrity to be treated as your next door neighbour, or for “normal people” to be treated as celebrities, but let’s think this in this way. Do you treat your family the same way you treat a random passerby? I can’t answer, but I’m almost sure that you have closer bonds to your family, which means you would favour them over the passerby. This is because, while human beings are (or should be) equals, what they mean to us, in an objective perspective, is not always the same. The same thing happens with celebrities. Some people just have more importance for others.
We do not need celebrities, but humans have always had something or someone to look up to; we also may associate celebrities to important things in our life (for example, I associate an actor with my desire to be a polyglot). And, as the morbid creatures we are, we like knowing about the lives of others, mostly about the lives of those who are important to us. Hence, the recognition of celebrities.
Greebabubba
1
I’m speaking from a third person place here, but it seems to me you may be asexual, and/or aromantic.
Now, I will say that we live in a hyper-sexual world, and a world that makes romantic love look like the centre of our lives. But that’s a twisted perspective, and it’s far from the truth.
There is nothing wrong with not being interested in romance, or in sex, some people may see it as weird, but if that’s who you are, then it’s not their business. If you don’t experience romantic attraction, then that’s chill, there’s nothing wrong with that. And you can learn to shut up people who tell you otherwise.
On the change thing… I’m not going to lie, it may change. People grow and with that the labels and things they use to identify with may change. But even if it does, it’s okay, just be you, be unapologetically you because you’re just as valid as anyone else, and let things be.
2
I am a huge nerd, so I’m probably biased on the topic of school, but having an environment to learn is not bad. In fact, what I liked most about my school were the classes, and even though you may not use a lot of it, the critical thinking skills you develop, as well as the processes of learning and understanding are really important.
However, I understand how it’s like to feel like school doesn’t do anything for you. And even though it’s awful, the best thing you can do is suck it up and take matters into your own hands. What I did in my last years of high school was learning things by myself. The pomodoro technique is something great for studying, and I think that, in a bigger scale, you could use it in your life itself. So try to organise yourself in a way that, even if you have to study, you can still have time for yourself and live.
Even if you do end up with an ordinary life, you can do great things with it. No life is the same, and every little choice you make can lead you a little closer to what you want. After all, it’s your life, you decide what to do with it, and even though you may not be able to control everything, you can control you and your actions, so make sure those are beneficial and get you to the kind of life you want.
Honestly, a lot of parents don’t know how to be parents, so if yours act that way, the best thing is to talk to them in a calm manner and point out what you think they could change, maybe that way you can get to some sort of middle ground for all of you to be okay.
This can also apply to the people butting in thing. I know it may seem a bit asshole-ish but try explaining to them that they’re interrupting something they may not be involved in, not in any rude way, but in a way that lets them know that it’s not the time for them to do those things.
Well, this may be a complicated subject, but if people say they are introverted yet seem extroverted, you could give them the benefit of the doubt and just see how things go without a critical eye. A lot of people see themselves differently than others, so these may actually be mechanisms they have to feel more comfortable, same with the talking thing. Just… don’t let first impressions be the ones the guide you.
3
You are not obligated to like your family just because they’re related. If a person hurts you, or is a negative influence in your life, cut them out, and tell people you trust. Maybe that way it can be easier to avoid them.
You said they were a teenager, and well, I hope they mature at least a little bit. But even if they don’t, don’t forget that you can cut any ties, even familial ones.
Jannice
1
I want to start apologising, because no child deserves to be neglected by their parents. I’m terribly sorry you had to go through that, and i certainly hope you’re on a better position now.
Now, I will say that parents rarely know how to be parents, it’s mostly trial and error, and they just try to wing a lot of things. No one is given an instruction manual on parenting. However, these are not reasons to act like this towards their child. I’ve had a lot of issues with my family, and honestly, the best you can do when it comes to dealing with people like this is to remain calm, and to wait until the heat of the yelling and everything has subsided. Now, what your parents are doing seems to me like abusive behaviour. Like I said, there’s a chance they may not even know it’s abusive, since we live in a world that normalises it in certain cases, but you can try to talk it out with them. When it comes to learning from experience, it’s mostly trial and error. But people can’t learn if they don’t notice their errors. So try to point them out, in a calm manner and a non confrontational environment. Maybe like this they will begin learning and may divert into other parenting methods.
Now, this is going to sound terrible, but sometimes the parents you have are not the parents you need. That happens a lot, but I want you to know that, even if this is your case, you can make it through it. You can have a solid support system among people who are not directly related to you, and I can assure you that you’re enough.
Now, on the school thing. You won’t ever be able to please everyone. Please get that through your head, because otherwise, things can get really ugly. You won’t be able to please everyone, and that’s perfectly fine. Just do whatever you’re comfortable doing, whatever feels you. Because when you are yourself, and when you are authentic, you’re being the best version of yourself you can be. By authentic I don’t mean not wearing makeup, or doing your hair, I mean staying true to what you believe and do whatever pleases you. I am authentic with my blue hair, because the blue hair is a part of me. So go and find who you are, and be the best you you can be.
2
Acceptance is a long and hard journey, and coming out is a very brave thing to do, because you’re exposing yourself to not being accepted by who you are. So I admire your courage in coming out. Now, as i said before, the best solution is to be you. So you’re pansexual? That’s freaking great, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Be unapologetically pan and show them that you’re real and that that is you.
And shut them up by proving them wrong, make them see who you are and how freaking great you are.
WinterMoon
- drama is horrible, I have been in your situation, and it’s quite annoying when you just wanted to sort things out just to be met with a reactive person. Tbh, the best thing in these situations is to keep your head cool and try to talk it out after you’re both calmer.
- call her out on her lies. It may be messy, but it may also be very helpful in the long run.
- agreed, prejudiced people should just stop. However the best way to stop the prejudice and the hatred is through teaching, so while it may be a long process, I believe we may reach that utopic dream in which people treat each other as that, as people.
- I haven’t dealt with art thieves, but I can tell it’s pretty awful. I hope you found a way to deal with this.
- fake people and liars should not be your problem. Sure, they may be annoying, but the best way to deal with this is either call them out on what they’ve done, or just stay away from all the situation, they are lying to themselves anyways, and people have brains, so they will notice others’ fakeness sooner or later.
Amani
1
Amani, life doesn’t come with an instruction manual, and it’s human to err. Honestly, it’s so freaking human to make mistakes, I’d be worried if you didn’t make mistakes. Because it’s through mistakes that we learn the best, not academically, but in life.
You are enough just by being you, period. And I know you, I know you always try to improve yourself, so I’m going to say that that’s freaking great! But please remember, life is not about the end point, it’s not about your goals. It’s about living, it’s about enjoying every freaking second you get, and to experience the things that happen in your life, even if they’re not precisely positive. I know you are very intelligent, so I want to recommend two texts for you. First is “on the road” by Anton Chekhov, and the second is “Human Relationships” by Natalia Ginzburg. I have them both in Spanish, so if you consider you can understand them in Spanish I can link them to you. Because these two texts are both about life, but they’re so vastly different. And I think maybe the comparison may change your perspective on a lot of things.
Now… I do care, and you are not a bother to me, so you know you can come to me whenever you want.
2
I’m happy you stood up for yourself, and I’m sorry this has happened. But I know you have great resilience, and I know that you are strong enough for this. You are a great person, and you have all of us to back you up.
3
I’m so sorry about this, Amani. I told you in the chat, but I’ll tell you again. You are awesome, and if they don’t want to have you, it’s your loss. So the best you can do is to prove them wrong.
Either way, you know you have us here for you.
Blu
1
Saaame, Blu. I can’t stand when people use mental conditions as insults or jokes, they shouldn’t be taken lightly.
2
You are an amazing human being and the world needs to be more like you <3
LanaAugustine
@LanaAugustine
People need to learn how to take criticism. This is specially for authors.
I’m an aspiring editor, and in one of my seminars we’re seeing the reasons texts are edited, and there’s something really important about the main book we’re using. “An error always implies a change, but not every change implies an error” (I’m paraphrasing Blecua here but if you want to know where it’s from it’s from his “manual de crítica textual”). Not everything that people are asked to change implies there was an error, and people should see that.
loveyourself
A Thought
I can promise you, there are people who care about you. No human being goes without having someone to care for them.
Now, you can escape, trust me, there is a way out. it’s complicated, and it may take a long time, but there is a way out, and I trust you can find it. It’s through baby steps, but then you’ll look back and you’ll feel glad to see how far you’ve come. Because you can get through this.
Episode
ngl, I don’t use the app anymore because of how much the clichés piss me off. But they’re a business who cares more about selling than about its users, so I have given up on them.
Sexuality
Hear me out, there is nothing wrong with loving people. There is nothing wrong with having feelings towards others, so please don’t beat yourself up over this. If you like girls, well girls are really frickin’ pretty so I get where you’re coming from, and if this is you, then it’s super cool because you are super cool.
But remember sexuality is complex, and your labels may change, so even if this is a phase, remember there’s nothing wrong with temporarily identifying as something or someone.
suicidal thoughts
First of, I want to let it clear that you are not a pussy for not committing suicide. Living will always be harder than dying, and even though our instincts keep us from dying, it’s your strength what takes you through life.
I, for one, am glad you did not kill yourself. I know this is late, but trust me when I say that the hardships of life are worth it by the end.
And just know that you can always come to me if you want someone to talk to, or if you are feeling overwhelmed and need to vent <3
On the update
I am terribly sorry you’ve been through that. I know life can throw a bunch of shit your way, but I’m sure that you can get out of it. Trust me, life is worth it, feeling is worth it.
You can’t ignore all the pain, but you can build from that, you can learn, and you can create something great.
I know it’s hard, I have attempted suicide as well, and I have done so for years now. But you can keep on living, because when you keep on living, you will experience things that make you say “maybe this isn’t so bad after all”.
Keep holding on, and you will make it, you will see that you are strong, because if you could battle yourself, and make it out of it alive, you can do anything you put your mind to.
Try to take into account all the things Once and Theother51 have mentioned, please. And take care.
I know I’ve been gone for a while, but please know, my PMs are always open, and I care about you.
Manhattan
Wow, that must have been a scary experience. Did you talk to the police about it?
I’m sorry you went through this, and I hope everything is alright for you now.
Expectations
Honestly, I can relate a lot to that, I actually recently had a conversation about it with my father which is fucking ridiculous since it’s about the past and like… I’m an adult and happy with my life . People will have a lot of expectations for you. But it doesn’t matter what people say, okay? What matters is what you think, want and feel.
I want to let some things clear, alrighty?
You are not a seed, so you cannot be a bad seed. I know it’s not literal, but still, you’re not a seed, not even metaphorically. You would probably be a plant, or something similar anyway, and you are alive and you’re your own being. So, like a plant, people will try to shape you or to lead you in some way, but you decide how you want to be, and just like plants, anything you decide will be amazing, because nature and authenticity is beautiful (in the platonic sense).
No, you are not perfect. But no one is. Did you know my favourite music style of music is Baroque? Well, it is, and it gets its name from the imperfect pearls that people could find. Also, baroque is one of the biggest examples of humanity, because we are not perfect, but we are still great and beautiful. So don’t let people tell you otherwise, or make you feel less because of who you are, because you’re freaking amazing! I don’t care if you don’t seem to fit in, you are still really freaking worth it, okay? So just be you and rub it in other people’s faces.
I am proud of you for your progress, and for not acting out against yourself. But trust me, you cannot have any of the respect, honour, praise, or anything if you are dead.
It’s okay to feel like a mess, there’s nothing wrong with that, so don’t worry. But you are NOT ugly, fat, stupid, useless. Whoever said it has no place to talk. You are really freaking amazing, period.
There’s A LOT of people here who care for you.
Please keep us updated.
Drama
ugh, drama is the worst, really, I can’t deal with it.
I’m not gonna get too involved with it, but I’m gonna say I understand where you’re coming from, and that you can vent about it.
I hope you can get away from that negativity soon.
schedule
I’m very sorry, that’s very crappy. But well, at least it was still early in the year. I hope high school gets at least a little bit better now.
Leaving
Honestly, I would miss you if you were to leave the forums. But I understand why you would want to leave. So just do what’s best for you, take care, put yourself first, and remember that whether you leave or not, a lot of us care for you have our arms open for you.
Elf
@LittleElf I have yet to finish my degree, but i can relate. The mere thought of talking to people scares the crap out of me, but hey, if I managed to talk in class, you will be able to do well in your interviews.
Januva
hair
Honestly, any type of hair is freaking amazing, I don’t know about hair care products (I like leaving my hair as the frizzy mess it is), but I think there may be some products to help you detangle it and make it more manageable. However, please remember that your hair is amazing because… honestly? All types of hair are super cool!
Body
Yous body may not be what you have idealised. But think of it this way: your body is the collection of matter that allows you and your soul to exist. I don’t know about you, but I find that really cool. Sure, maybe your belly stick out, but hey, this is you! And I know that there must be some really great things about you! So I think you can associate them to the things about your body you don’t like that much.
On the topic of hair, there’s nothing wrong with being hairy. But if you don’t like it, I think there are a few alternatives that may help~
cakepie
@cakepie99999
toxic relationships are dangerous and I’m glad your friend has someone like you by their side to protect them and care about them.
I know it’s hard to make people see how toxic a relationship can be, but there are ways to do it, so I’d suggest you to bring this up in a moment when you’re both cool headed, and to try to get more people involved, maybe then they will listen.
However, your rand was a while ago so… how have things gone?
Coolepisodes
Father thingie
It’s terrible you and your sister have had to go through this, no one should.
I know you said you didn’t want to tell the police, but calling child protective services is probably the best for both of you, you need to be out of that environment.
Or… is there any adult you trust that could take care of you both? I really don’t want you two to be around him.
Brinn said most of the things I was thinking about, so there’s really no need to repeat them
Now, this was weeks ago so I need to ask… how have things gone since then?
Please take care, and know you can come to me whenever
RPing
I understand your frustration, that’s something that has happened me a few times, but we have to understand that people have their lives outside the forums, and that, as fun as RPing is, it’s not a priority to most of us.
Episode
Those stories are awful, really, not only they’re unrealistic but most of them portray unhealthy relationships. But well, I don’t have too much hope for episode.
theother51
@anon55976316
1
I have to admit, i can relate to your friend, a lot actually.
I read that you talk mainly on texts, so i think written communication could work a lot. A friend of mine has this notebook she shares with her best friend, they exchange it every day and then they each writes things they consider important about their days down, I think that may be helpful for you two.
And honestly? Just try to communicate the best, and maybe tell her about this, because keeping this could lead to you not feeling comfortable around her ad isolating yourself too.
2
YOU DID IT! YOU CUT YOUR HAIR AND YOU’RE GONNA ROCK IT!
I’m very sorry your mum reacted that way, but she cannot decide who you are or how you look like, so I hope she has come to terms with it by now (or that at least she isn’t endangering you because of that)
I’m really happy that you feel good with your hair, that’s the most important thing.
Also, that wig looks a lot like my hair, only more organised XDD I hope you like both your new hair and your wig :3
mother
I am terribly sorry your mother acts like that. My parents are similar, so i think I can understand how this is. Honestly? Try to take a break from her. Get out and just walk around the neighbourhood, or make up some kind of hang out with your friends. Just stay away from you mother’s negativity.
How have you been doing lately? How’s your appetite?
Girl from your past
I am terribly sorry you had gone through that. But, as weird as it sounds, I’m glad you could write this. I know this was a few years ago, and I’m sorry that it is still affecting you. However, the fact that you took your time to write this out, and even more, share it with us, means that you’re having catharsis over that.
I know the healing process is long and hard, but I’m proud that you’re going through it. And know we are here for you through this process.
Gaia
1
Honestly, I feel you. I don’t understand why some people are so entitled and rude towards others, even more when the other person is working so they’re not allowed to defend themselves.
I hope things have gotten better for your brother. tbh, with people this ruse, life often kicks them on their asses. It’s hard to get far when you’re not a decent person (or at least have people skills)
2
Also, how’s your sleep schedule going?
AS
1
I’m about to bang my head against my desk. Not only this is hypocrisy, it seems downright ignorant.
People who want to help with a problem, must know what the problem is and act upon it, not just do what they’re told. He should have informed himself.
How’s the ban on plastic going now?
2
That’s an interesting viewpoint. I don’t know much about it because I was never a very social person, and i was usually around older people, but I think the bonds we form are based a lot in people we see as equals (and who see us as equals as well). So that may be a big influence on friends. However, I think most bonds are created by common interests and sharing something with people, not necessarily a physical thing, but an experience, a feeling, something.
And don’t close yourself to the chance of new friends just because they can be amazing for your life.
3
As, first, I need to remark that there is absolutely nothing wrong with needing help. And a lot of us are here to be with you and provide you company, and help you through it.
Yes, it’s good to help others with their problems, but it’s also very, very important to find a way to let your problems out. Maybe through ranting or venting, or through something different. Either way, you cannot bottle things up. It is not a waste of time, and we are not annoyed by them.
4
I agree with this 100%
We are all human.
We all feel.
We are all allowed to express our feelings.
And anyone who says otherwise is being ignorant af.
We need to let people know about this, so maybe people will be allowed to be themselves sometime.
Fallen
@FallenAngelNight13
Honestly, I agree with anime, ever since the forums became more popular, more problematic and dramatic users have been joining. These forums feel completely different to the old forums, but well, i still like them in a way.
With the drama. I think it’s safe to say we’re all tired of it, and I hope people get over themselves soon, because this is making my happy place into a headache.
I agree completely with you, people should keep their problems with other issues on the PMs, not involve all of us innocent bystanders.
Willowbean
1
No, it’s not you. Episode is featuring boring, poorly written and underdeveloped stories, they are also quite repetitive so… yeah. tbh I would say a lot about it but it’s almost midnight so… yeah
Summary
I know these forums have become a source of negativity and drama for a lot of people, and I’m sorry you’ve found yourself involved in that.
Please take care, and remember, your wellbeing is more important than any online forums.
Sofia
@kitty4322
I know this is waaay too late, but you are not a bother, Sofia, and being in a bad spot mentally does not mean you want attention. I think we all understand that.
Your ex sounds pretty shitty, by the way but…
How are things now?
Sarina
@Sarina.K
I’m not gonna lie, this is something I’ve dealt with too. I don’t know how to help with this, but I’m going to tell you: having your friends leave is a part of life. No matter how painful it is, not everyone will stay in your life forever.
I don’t know if it may work, but a few months ago I found that writing a letter for a friend that left was very therapeutic for me. So maybe, if you feel like it, you could write her a letter and tell her about these things.
And she probably does remember you, seeing as you two seemed to be close childhood friends, I think humans don’t forget about their friends, even if the memories become hazy.
Maggdizz
@maggdizz504
I’m going to be completely honest here, politics stress me out. However, I understand where you are coming from.
I really appreciate the fact that you speak your mind and that you stick to your opinions, that’s a great quality to have.
On the different opinions… the best thing when it comes to this is to discuss them calmly, maybe try to listen and explain things. And I think you know that and try to do so, which is very good. However, most people don’t understand it. And tbh, you can only ignore those people. Or at least wait until they’ve calmed down and ask them if they would be okay with having a civil conversation on the matter, because having different points of view is really important in most things about life.
Fate
@Sae
Fate, oml, I just want to give you a huge hug, even though I know you don’t like physical contact so I’m just gonna send my best wishes and all the positive feelings I have towards you.
And on the sick thing… same, bro, same
Although people sometimes freak out over something that’s minor to me and I’m like… “It happens”
Night owls
Summary
well, I’m sort of late for this, but I hope I can help somehow, seeing as you have about a week left.
Please don’t tire yourself out with the reading. I know it can be stressful, but you can divide it in smaller parts and try to work on that.Have you heard about the Pomodoro technique? It’s super useful when it comes to studying, and it helps preserve your mental health as well so it works.
I’m happy that you are in honours english, and I know that if you accomplished to be there, you will be able to stay on top as well. Please take mental health breaks, and remember you can talk to me if you ever wanna vent ^-^
I hope you have an amazing sophomore year. But remember even if you seem to be doing nothing, every little thing, even getting out of bed, is a small victory. So just do what you can do, and work towards your goal with small steps every time
sexuality
I am very happy for you to have found a label you identify with, and I admire your bravery in coming out. I hope everything goes well for you, and please remember not to endanger yourself. Just do what you’re comfortable with
LI05
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Honestly? The best thing is to ignore them. These people are so into their mindsets, they won’t accept anything different than what they believe (even though many people have said that there’s nothing wrong about being queer to some religions (particularly christianity) )
What they’re doing is just dumb.
Q
I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong. You can maintain a nice and happy friendship with people who are in relationships. As long as you know your limits and don’t fall into disrespecting anyone, it’s fine.
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This was a while ago but… did you talk to him about it? Because that’s… strange, and I undertand how it could make you feel uncomfortable.
Annaliese
life
I am terribly sorry you have gone through that. No child should have to experience that (or person of any age, but specifically children). I can’t help much here, because I believe it would be the best for you to go see a professional in the case of depression. However, I’m here for you if you ever wanna rant, or want to ask for advice.
I wish you the best.
Friend
On the friend thing… I’m not gonna lie, this is very complicated, having a friend with depression can be hard and painful, but please, try to be there for her. You can’t force her to do anything, though, so just make sure she knows she has your support. And maybe suggest things for her that may help. Nothing big at first, but any smaller thing that she could change for starters is good. And try to help her get through it.
Also, keep in contact with her mum, I’m sure it will be helpful for her to have a support system with friends and family.
Episode
I have yet to write my review in the god-awful story, I can’t come near it. But it makes me feel sick and disgusted to know that story even exists in here.
Moshix
@Moshix2
I am very sorry your friend is going through that. But you can’t change it, only she can.
You have to be there for her, but you an’t force her to eat. The fact that you know is a good thing, it means she trusts you, and that she cares enough to tell you.
Be there for her, and try to help her by encouraging her to eat small portions of food at first. Tell her that being healthy is more important than her weight, and just… be her friend, and take care of you both.
Theother51 and loveyourself said most of the things I had to say, so please listen to their advice, it’s really useful.
How had your friend been lately?
Whispering_Flower
@Whispering_Flower
I know this is not of much help. But it’s only a grade, only a letter. And it doesn’t say much about how much you actually know, or of you as a person, and those who do criticise you for your grade are being foolish.
This is just a grade, and its importance it’s going to be temporary. Trust me when I say it will pass.
Adam
1
I don’t know you, so I can’t particularly say I missed you, or anything like that. I’m sorry.
I am sorry about the things going on in your life, I know things can get overwhelming af from time to time, so please take care and remember your life is more important that the forums. Moshi/Jamie said most of the things I could have said, so i’m not gonna repeat myself so just… follow her advice.
I know this is somewhat late, but I hope things with your friends got solved, and that you are feeling more comfortable around.
2
Well, this was a while ago, so I need to ask how things went with her. I know eating disorders can be a pain, but I know that people can get better with their friends by their side and people to help them. I don’t have much to say, but I hope things went well.
3
I know how hard it can be to see someone go through that process, reading this makes my heart hurt. I hope your mum gets better.
Luckily, breast cancer is one of the most treatable ones from what I know.
Shannii
@ShanniiWrites
That is very interesting to know, and i’m a little disappointed that I didn’t get word on that before. So now I’m wondering how that thing went and if there was any controversy on the topic.
And I know nowadays everything can be “a copy of a copy of a copy”, but I still wonder what made HG to stand out over the Japanese version?
Choco
1
I’m very sorry your parents are like that. But honestly? Screw them and their expectations. You cannot expect a tree to grow in a specific way, and you cannot force any living creature other than yourself to act in a certain way.
Just be yourself, enjoy being shamelessly you, and prove them that even though you did not meet their expectations, you are great as you are, and that you can lead a great life that way.
2
Honestly, relationships are messy and confusing. But, Choco, take your time to figure things out, to feel, and to be at peace. No relationship is worth the stress and negative feelings.
3
Oof, that sounds awful… Could you maybe talk to your teacher so you can change your seat or something?
4
You are better at relationships than I am XDD
Honestly, you shouldn’t be afraid of being yourself in front of your crush, even if it seems you’re being ridiculous.
Because, well, if something happens between you two then you’re probably going to be yourself.
5
That sounds painful, how’s your foot doing now?
And your fever? O_o
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How did things go with your maybe crush?
Jenna
@jenna1012
Well, that seems frustrating af, and I’m sorry. Did you tell him about it? I know this may be cliché, but communication is very important, so you have to tell people when they do things that annoy or hurt you.
But well, telling him while you are annoyed by that may lead to a fight, so a calm, coolheaded conversation may work the best.
I hope he stops doing that.
Brinn
@brinn
This was a week ago, so how are you doing now?
I am very sorry your classmate committed suicide, it’s terrible to think he felt like that was his only way out, and it’s even worse to see the hypocrisy of your classmates. However, I think there are people who care.
I can’t talk for anyone here, but I’m sure it would matter a lot if you died. Death affects a lot of people, and I can promise you that if you did, then there will be people at parties feeling like crap because you aren’t around anymore. A year and a few months ago, a friend’s sibling’s best friend killed herself. And a long time after that, my friend still cries and yells at the universe because of how much she misses her. Death is definite, Brinn, and trust me when I say a lot of people, me included, would feel like the world is incomplete without you around.
No, it should not have been you. It shouldn’t have been ANYONE. Just like your classmate did, you have a life, a life that holds a lot of amazing things, in front of you, even if you can’t tell right now. You cannot leave that behind.
Again, I hate that hypocrisy people show, it makes me feel cold and empty on the inside, so I’m sorry your teachers did that. But trust me when I say that people do care, and some people like me will think about their death classmates even over a decade later. Because every single person is important in the world, and their loss is something that affects people for their lifetime.
I’m very happy that you had plans for the day, and I hope things went alright. It makes me really, really glad that you’re doing things like that, no matter how small or unimportant they may seem to others. It’s very important that you are doing them :3
@Juann @Kaycee_Rose This is not a thread for drama. I know this was a while ago, but don’t do that thing again. People come here to express their feelings and thoughts and vent. If you have a problem, take it to the PMs. Don’t tag people to get them involved in it.
Gina
@Gina123 same, the old forums were my home, and now it seems we’ve moved homes and everything is so different!
Aida
Honestly? the point of life is to live. I don’t know if you’re familiar with the concept of aestheticism in art, but it’s similar. Art exists to be art, just to exist. And our lives could be considered art, so it’s the same.
I’m sorry you have felt like this, but honestly, it’s worth the risk sometimes. Because then you see it all and it’s something beautiful.
Burger
@episode.burger
Wow, just… wow. What airhead did is honestly awful. But well… people leave, and that’s something that happens. As it seems, he was a negative person in your life, so he could have been slowing you down. Use this situation to impulse you towards what you want or who you want to be. He left your life and even though what he did is crappy af, it’s good to have him out, so enjoy that.
To quote an old response about toxic friends leaving:
Someone leaves you? Okay, that’s something you don’t have control over. Let’s see what you can do: You want them back in your life? Take your time and think: are they worth it? getting someone back in your life takes a great effort, and sometimes it’s not worth it. If they aren’t worth it, take the fact that they left as something good. They are (unconsciously) giving you a chance to be in a better position than before. You may miss them. Hell, you WILL miss them, because they were a part of your life that’s missing from you now. But whenever you miss the think of how damaging they were to you and compare it to your actual situation. So take Patrick Stump’s quote and yell it to them: “Fuck you, you can go cry me an ocean and leave me be” they were toxic, don’t let them keep on ruining your life, you are better now, let them know that by being free to be happy, on your own or with others.
Keep them locked in there but don’t throw away the box, because that box means something you learnt.
Manik
@Manik
Well, I have no words to describe the mess my brain is right now.
Thank you for sharing this, this is going to sound weird af, but I am glad you said this. Not because I agree with it, but because now I can know what to abstain to.
I don’t know about your religion, so I am not going to say anything about it. But I am going to tell you this: there is no reason to be afraid of the LGBTQ+ community and its people. We are merely a community that seeks love, acceptance and equality. I can’t change your mind on the avoiding us thing, just as I won’t change my mind when it comes to being my proud, queer self and defend my community with all I have, and to keep away from people who don’t support us. But I need to tell you that, queer or not, we are all people, and we all deserve the same respect and equal treatment.
I am sorry for your friend. And I’m sorry you felt like you needed to change who you are around her. She’s the same person she was before coming out, so she does not deserve to be treated differently now that she was brave enough to come out.
Yes, a lot of homophobic posts get flagged around. And I will admit I’ve flagged quite a few of them. Because being homophobic hurts us, because homophobia brings all of us a lot of problems.
Now, before arguing on that, I will get into semantics. I define homophobia as hatred and prejudice against my community. Your definition may be different. So let’s not fight over that.
So yeah, posts I deem as homophobic are the ones that actively express hatred towards us, therefore, damages us and the positivity the forums should maintain.
Yes, the community is to share opinions and discuss them, but all in a respectful manner. yes, we have free speech, but that doesn’t mean that our words won’t have consequences.
Now, the comparison between cows and people… well that’s definitely disrespectful, although I doubt you meant it that way.
Yes, it’s good that you stand up for your beliefs, but it is very different to say you should respect an animal than to express something against people. You said it yourself. They’re their own beings and deserve respect. So should we.
Now, please don’t compare us with cows next time, please? Because, queer or not, we are all human, and deserve to be treated as such. You said it, we all deserve respect.
And just as you, I have reached my limit, so I can’t say I will be talking much to you after this. I can’t be around people who make me feel uncomfortable like this, and even though you probably don’t mean to, I do feel uncomfortable, I’m sorry.
I wish you the best in life.
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You go Cam!!! You’re freakin’ amazing to do this!!!
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but IT’S WORTH IT! THIS THREAD IS MY GOD-CHILD AND I HAVE NEGLECTED IT FOR A LONG TIME! I CAN’T LEAVE IT OR MY CHILDREN (you all) ALONE
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Thank you cam
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Thanks~
I’ll try to be around more often, you guys know this thread and you all mean A LOT to me
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Ok first of all you tagging us makes us look pretty bad…and second of all we were not trying to create drama! Most of the rants about myself had already gotten deleted…but they were EXTREMELY hurtful and disrespectful! It would be appreciated if you were to delete the area in your rant where it tells us to “never do that again”
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But it’s a place for us to say what’s on our minds without being judged.
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Yes but using names like “selfish one” or “religious one” or tagging that specific person is extremely uncalled for!
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