Exactly! I feel the same way. I’ve never had anyone ask to touch my hair, never been followed in a store, and dare I say, I have not experienced racism and no one has ever called me the N word before. Whenever you tell other Black people this, they dismiss your experiences and say “well, you did, you probably just didn’t notice.” I think Black people, as a collective, suffer from learned helplessness. What kind of life do you live where you instantly think every single Black person on the planet has had the worst experiences here?
I also never use the N word myself and no one in my house does.
I date outside of my race, so those conversations about Black men and Black women are not my conversations to have, lol.