hey so my story has a main character suffering from an0rexia (iām NOT romanticising anything!!! at all!!! the LI doesnāt āsave herā from it either. there are also TWs.) to portray her body dysmorphia, i have a scene where sheās in the bathroom looking at herself in the mirror. i created a plus-size twin for her (that will match whatever the reader customizes her as, except with a Long Double Chin face.) and an overlay so sheās looking at a bigger version of herself in the mirror. but as i was proofreading, i realizedā¦ is this insensitive to plus-size people?? there are trigger warnings and stuff, but i do not want to make anything offensive at all. feedback pls? ty xx (also iāve gone through the forums, everything says that having EDs is okay if you donāt romanticize it. plus iām pretty sure there was an episode featured story with a main character who had an0rexia?? her name was tess but i dont remember what the story itself was called)
I donāt like this. Ppl w eating disorders donāt necessarily see themselves as larger than they r or āfatā (thatās a horrible word, never use it) n in this context ur making it seem like that. Most plus size ppl r totally happy in their own skin! u need to portray her afraid to eatā¦ fearing that if she does, sheāll loose the approval she gets from society in her small body. Also, not all ppl who go thru ED r skinny anyone can experience this. I donāt wanna speak for plus size ppl but I think sum could find this offensive. Pls donāt add it, itās not realistic.
thank you for your feedback <3 i know most plus size people are which is awesome bc everyone is beautiful and deserves to feel good about themselves no matter what their weight is, i wasnāt trying to come across as offensive & iām very sorry. i am portraying her as afraid to eat, ive done a lot of research on this topic and i come across a lotttt of stuff abt body dysmorphia, especially from people who currently suffer from an0rexia, so i thought it would be ok to put that in, thank you for offering your opinion, often when i am working on smthn its hard to step back and look at the bigger picture lol iāll take this out, thank you so much have a good day xx
Thanks, u werenāt offending me but Ik plus size ppl n that stereotype is offensive. I recommend showing her looking at her size & being afraid to lose it. Showing her not feeling enough until sheās vomited her food. (I had a friend who went thru this so yeah)
I would first research as much as possible for writing a ED when you havenāt been through the experience of having one. I would offer warnings/skip options and leave sites on where they can get help if they are going through something similar. You should also have sesitivity readers check you havenāt included anything offensive or triggering. I agree this is something that I think would/could offend people. Although quite a few plus size people are happy in themselves this would say to them that people are afraid to look like them. And not everyone has an ED because of they donāt like how they look. Some have it because of stress and other reasons. I watched a soap on tv and although she ended up not liking what she saw in the mirror it wasnāt just because she was afraid of being fat. Try to handle this with care and maybe try bluring out your post in case someone accidentally clicked on this post and gets triggered.
i blurred the post, thank you for the suggestion! also in the story itself, there are TWs and iāve censored certain things that might trigger people.
i have done a lot of research about ED, both articles and iāve read about peopleās experiences with it, and i removed the mirror scene so thereās no more bigger version of the MC, thank you for your feedback <3
I also want to add the story that featured a ED. People hated that story it included choices on the way to recovery. Like skipping meals or eating which is totally the wrong way to go about it. Something you want to touch on in recovery is that you need to be careful on how people react. Donāt make anyone force the MC into getting help as it can cause an opposite effect. Also maybe add something in at the to educate people on ED as well as the sites to get help. This should be skippable if you decide to add it.
oh really? i didnāt know, i read it a long time ago, but iāll make sure not to do anything like that at all. also, i thought i would add hotlines and stuff at the end of every episode, like a āresourcesā thing or something? iāll put in some more stuff to educate people + websites, thank you <3
whoa! omg that is absolutely awful! fortunately, iāve never read it, or even heard of it. the story i was talking about wasnāt mainly centered on an ED, it was a romance story but later on in the story (near the end?) it came out that the MC had an ED, and that was how sheād lost so much weight over the summer (sheād been bodyshamed for years and snapped i think?) but yeah her name was Tess or Tessa, it was definitely not as bad as the one you linked me to
