- Yeah itās definitely different for me. Iām friends with mostly girls so when I have a crush on a girl Iām more comfortable around her (not that comfortable tho I still feel shy and stuff) but with guys itās like āomw how am I supposed to talk to him like what do guys even talk about how am I supposed to know he might not even be gay/bi??!ā But yeah it also has something to do with who youāre sexually attracted to as well, cause that makes the crush a little bit deeper if that makes sense? (this is just my opinion I have no idea how other bi people feel about this) anyway cause Iām only sexually attracted to guys and romantically attracted to both genders so with girls I feel more a lovey dovey - hand holding - kindergarten crush type of feeling and with guys itās more like a feeling of being speechless and etc.
- My first crush was the opposite sex. Iāve had more girl crushes than guy crushes tbh.
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Omg Same!!!
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To answer your comment in my country it is actually a sociological fact that is teach in school that gender is defined by multiple factors and how society perceive you is one of them. So I wonāt even take time to really get into an argument on your comment because itās actually a proven fact in my country that gender identity isnāt defined by sex.
As for your comment for label I think itās misinformed from your part to say people use labels without knowing what they mean since labels at least in the LGBTQ+ community are used by people to put a word on how they feel. So thereās no wrong label. Label are there for you to reassure you and tell āthis is okay to be like thatā to a lot of people that never felt like they belonged because of how they felt.
You want people to respect how you feel and how you think and your opinions but you donāt for others and their need for labels for example.
This last part is not about you but about people that make these types of comments toward labels in general. So donāt take it personally obviously Iām making a generalization I have nothing against you per say. I am really sick of people thinking itās okay to make these kind of claim and to try to tell people how it doesnāt make sense for people to care about labels or that we donāt know things. Iāve even had people tell me it was because of people who cared so much about label that LGBTQ+ phobia was so huge in our society. Donāt tell us what to feel. Because thatās the exact same thing that people who oppressed us did in the past, trying to influence our way to feel or to express ourselves. I get your point but seriously donāt except us to be okay with this and donāt try to blame us for reacting badly like āyour easily offendedā and āyouāre too sensitiveā. Yeah of course but your comment can also be perceived as extremely rude. You have your part of responsibility in this.
If weāre too easily offended and too sensitive how come the others comments didnāt offend us ? I mean if you put this disclaimer you knew there could have been an issue with what you said. Just be real for two minutes about that.
All in all I think a lot of the things you said were extremely hypocritical. Iām not even mad (especially because like I said itās not really a you thing itās just a recurring thing people said) Iām just so fed up with this. You say you donāt care who we love or whatever but why do you give a shit about label. It doesnāt concern you just stop it. Sure you have the right to express your opinion I totally respect that and I have no issue against it but do it in a respectful way not accusing us (subtly or not) of being offended too easily, being too sensitive or not knowing what weāre talking about.
But I am not gonna lose more time on this because this is supposed to be a positive thread. Honestly if you want to talk about this and actually debate like adults Iām free in my PM. Iād genuinely love to hear what you say and answer my thoughts on it in a respectful way. Iām sure thereās a lot you could learn from what I have to say and vice versa.
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I completely agree! Also I hate how people are always telling me Iām too sensitive itās like excuse me being sensitive means I am a human with emotions and feelings and I am easily able to empathise with other people.
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Agreed but even then like itās a two way road. I can admit I can be too sensitive okay but at least admit your comment is a bit insensitive in the first place. You canāt blame everything on us. Especially if you except us to understand you and respect your opinion. You gotta respect our reactions then.
Wait I am a bit confused? What did I do?
No not you x) itās a general you. Iām referring to the person who posted the first comment. Youāre fine. Sorry if it was confusing.
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Whoops oh ok I get it now. Yeah what you said is very true
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Iām not part of the lgbt+ community, but one of my rl friends is bisexual she realized when we were in 5th grade, it made her depressed knowing her parents probably wouldnāt accept her. But she is proud and I love her.
Lgbt+ community I support you guys 
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Doh. U know. If u wanna make it a 100% positive thread - make a thread consisting of only your friends. And I was respectful. And people felt it. If you didnāt - itās just only because you didnāt agree with my thoughts, which I kinda donāt care about.
If u wanna teach me smthg - please. I will gladly do. If only you have smthg usefull to teach,
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I have something useful to teach that is why I proposed to you that we talk about it by PM. No I didnāt feel you were being respectful because you said if people didnāt agree with you thatās because they were being too sensitive and offended too easily not because I disagree with your thoughts.
I thought the way you worded thing was hypocritical. You could agree with me if you worded things that way to someone whoād disagree with both of us I would have still responded in the same way.
Iām seriously not trying to pick up a fight thatās why Iād like for us to talk about it via PM.
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If u feel like u wanna talk to me - sure. I will.
Regarding my speech - maybe i was insensitive. I donāt care. Because i treat people the way i donāt mind them treating me. That says it all
Did I already post here? Well too bad Iām doin it again
Demiromantic Panromantic (Questioning Asexual)
Gender is demigirl for now 
Still trying to figure some stuff out
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Bump! 
(Not part of the LGBT but still gonna give it a bump)
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Iāve been debating myself posting here. Some people say Iām LGBTQ because I am asexual, butā¦>.>
I donāt feel like I am part of this community. The reason why is because with a lot of ācommunitiesā like this, a great amount of people involved discredit other people for thinking differently. Before I just come out and about claiming to be asexual, Iām painfully obviously not the ācorrectā thinker for these communities.
I donāt want to be associated with a community where there are people that do BOTH of these things:
- No matter what group you belong in, Iāve heard it from straight, bi, gay, lesbian, trans, everyone EXCEPT other aces that my sexuality isnāt real. Thatās a ridiculous thing to be, isnāt it? A human with no sexual attraction or desire at all? Whatever. It doesnāt offend me, donāt get me wrong, I just get sick of hearing it and dealing with it, eyerolls, so I move on and live my life. Nothing changed in either party, theyāre just so sure that it is so naturally human and that Iām so broken LOL!
and 2. If I express my right-wing opinions, I shouldnāt automatically be met with āhomophobic, transphobic, heterophobic, panphobic, toucanphobic, humanphobic, phobic, phobic, phobic,ā and all that noise. If someone is gay and they want to be part of a community that is supposed to accept him for his sexuality, he shouldnāt be shamed and shoved out because he believes in capitalismā¦Jesus!
A little more on "communities"
This actually bothers me so much more than the LGBT community. They do it, too, but they arenāt the only one. Theyāre just another example.
I donāt look black myself, but my dad does (and is), and when he expresses HIS right-wing opinions, which are far more right-wing than mine, he gets the brunt of this insult. āHeās not really black.ā I see this, and the first thing that comes to my mind is, āOh. Itās okay to be racist only if you donāt think like the majority of the same type of people doā. It isnāt okay for a person to be treated like trash, we can all agree. It BAFFLES me that people can turn on their own group or community because they have a different set of opinions.
I think the idea of the LGBT community is a good one. Iād love to get behind it, but until it fixes its own problems, I refuse to identify with them. My community for being asexual is AVEN. There are better, lesser known communities, I think, for everyone. When a community turns their hand away from their own people, I just canātā¦I canāt.
I had a couple friends in college who were LGBT, and one in particular often invited me to events. He knew I was right-wing and he was left-wing, but he wanted me to be part of the community with him. He understood me when I told him I couldnāt, and he really wanted me to try it. Maybe I should have, but I just wonāt. There needs to be more like him, theyāre far less known/abundant.
Iām sorry if this post seemed hateful or negative in any way, that wasnāt the intention. Just my honest view and many other people that would otherwise be LGBT, by the way, about the problems with the community and why I and others like me donāt want to be part of it as it currently stands.
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Iām a proud bi/pansexual gal!
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I really like what you wrote and how you explained everything! 
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I definitely see where you are coming from. It is important to be reminded that political parties are NOT synonymous with supporting or not supporting the LGBT community. As an Ace, obviously I believe in them as a real thing, but I have also experienced this a ton from the community. It hasnāt isolated me as much because I am romantically attracted to more than one gender, so they still donāt see me as āstraightā, but it can be very hurtful. I am glad you have found a community you feel comfortable in, and even though it is certainly your choice to not include yourself in the LGBT community, I hope one day you feel comfortable enough to consider yourself a part of us, and that people will be understanding enough to make you feel welcome.
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Love to you @JHW <3 <3 <3
And thank you @Brooklyn_Blade for understanding. <3
Yāall have no idea how somewhat nervous I was to write that. Iām glad you get it and that you are comfortable in the community, too. <3
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It takes a lot of courage to be able to express yourself like that so well done. Itās ok to have different political opinions as long as everyone is being respectful.
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