Well, there are a few things to blame, conditioning I think is the first. The media, social platforms, music, etc. this has been going on for years. Black women are strong, fearless and independent, actually all women are like this, skin color doesn’t define that. However, black women are the most looked down on, hated and degraded group, therefore, they are strong because they have to deal with this daily. Black men take their self hatred out on the black woman, calling them names, shaming them, mistreating them by embarrassing them, ignoring them. They don’t want their “babies” to be “too dark” or to have that “nappy hair” and so much more.
They want women who they deem as prizes or arm candy, the main groups I’ve seen are White, Hispanic and Asian. I saw a white man once wrote, “sorry, but I don’t date black women. Unless you look like Rihanna” Within society, once the seed has been planted, the tree will grow, and so that colorist behavior and mentality is all but overgrown. Even through all these factors, black women will still love, nurture and protect the black man. Will love, nurture and protect anyone because that’s just who they are.
So, when someone tries to look down on you because you’re a black woman, stand up, hold your head high and say, I don’t pity me. I pity you. And leave him staring at your absence.
And the same goes for women who bleach their skin. They have been conditioned to believe that white skin is more beautiful than black, that long straight hair is more enticing and gorgeous. They too need to learn how to love themselves and stop believing in the falsehoods of peoples words. But, sadly these thoughts, behaviors and patterns won’t change.
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Jeez, just hearing that makes me itchy.
